Loneliness is a special place

We now live in a world where we’re connected to everything except ourselves.

Daria Krauzo
Jun 19, 2018 · 3 min read
Ecuador, Quilotoa Lake, one of the most breathtaking hikes I’ve ever done

All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.

You can make a wonderful use out of your loneliness. There are activities, such as writing, creating, painting, or simply thinking, that all require you to be alone — and to feel comfortable while being so. I learned who I was when nobody was around. Some nights I’d lay in bed with my book and think of how nice it would be to have a boyfriend there. Looking back, I realize how nice it was that I didn’t.

Solitude may not be the solution to everything, but it certainly is a start.

I believe that there was nothing more important to my personal development and growth than my lonely time, solitary travels and quiet evenings all by myself. Rather than view my loneliness as a wound that requires the immediate cure of someone’s attention, I have always tried to fill it with action. With books, art, research, writing. Whatever moves you. Instead of getting sad and thinking that I will end up alone, having a lot of cats and a vegetable garden, I try to embrace my solitude and simply get to work.

You need not leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. You need not even listen, simply wait, just learn to become quiet, and still, and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice; it will roll in ecstasy at your feet. — Franz Kafka

Baños, Casa del Arbol, surely my favourite swing in the world

A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.

Without a doubt, the times I’ve spent living, travelling, and hiking alone have been the most formative of my life so far. These experiences are a result of immense privilege; a privilege I know many people — women in particular — do not have. But if you do, you should and must embrace the opportunities to be alone. You don’t have to go living in a forest in a self-made house or study insects in the jungle, but you do need to challenge yourself sometimes.

The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude. ― Aldous Huxley

Galapagos Islands, 6am in Las Grietas, just me and some nice crabs

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I love books, carrots and (very) long walks. I write to make sense of being human. / www.dariakrauzo.com

The Post-Grad Survival Guide

Medium’s Millennial Work, Money and Life Advice Publication. We discuss our post-grad blues, successes, failures, and everyday life right here. Featuring topics related to work, relationships, travel, finances, and so much more.

Daria Krauzo

Written by

I love books, carrots and (very) long walks. I write to make sense of being human. / www.dariakrauzo.com

The Post-Grad Survival Guide

Medium’s Millennial Work, Money and Life Advice Publication. We discuss our post-grad blues, successes, failures, and everyday life right here. Featuring topics related to work, relationships, travel, finances, and so much more.

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