Your First Mentor — You Didn’t Know Why
I have this objective — to find me, a personal mentor, it may be for my personality, physical prowess, career-wise decisions, and even my financial capacity as well as wisdom when it comes to these aspects.
Various mentors comes in all different shapes and sizes; you may have one for your physical training exercise, another mentor for your financial records and book keeping, or even to look for your nutrition under your customized diet plan. This are all strapped according to what works best for you.
So you should be on the look-out to search and opt to get you one; work with someone who brings value to you.
“ No one is smarter than all of us. “
Books that are sitting on those shelves gives 50% of the knowledge you sought for. But you need the remaining 50% to eventually execute it properly and administer every project you take.
Mentors are not non-living entity; rather, they are a living product that can prove; that what went wrong for them won’t be long for us and what works for them, does not necessarily mean success to us.
This is the letter X, that we are finding in our missing algebraic equation.
Works best, when it is in its proper form.
My Personal Mentor:
I didn’t clearly see then, what I see now.
I buried myself in paper works, hard bound books; trying to figure out what’s best for me. All through-out the years I’ve spent searching and seeking what might’ve work for me; endless nights of visualization and imagination with the use of my sixth-sense as what Napoleon Hill describes in his great book “Think and Grow Rich”, I visualize personally what makes a good day great, the essence of thanksgiving and gift-giving, the purpose of living the life with the fundamental and guiding principles, and even imagine the council I manage, the cabinets with great personae and secretaries all working towards achieving my vision.
I even read Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, as there is a need to adapt the habit no. 2: To Begin With The End In Mind.
Let’s self meditate for a second, close your eyes, and start to free and plainly erase what you have in your mind as you read this.
In your meditation; visualize: as you open your eyes, you start to see and recall the places you’ve been from your previous years. Now you get excited and you start walking and running, later you find yourself walking towards a church. Soon after, you walked up and tried to open the doors; you see the people you grew up with, classmates you played during your recess, workmates you spent your friday nights drinking, your neighbors whom you barely see, and finally as you walk towards the front, you see your entire family. (Who do you see? Are they happy as you pictured them? Are the people you expected to be there actually there?) And there he/she was, the most important person in your life, making his/her way towards the podium, giving a monologue infront of your family and friends. (Was it thoughtful as you thought it were? Did the monologue said everything you expected?) Only soon after the monologue was delivered, an open casket where brought out by 4 people whom you are dearest to. As you walked closer towards the coffin, you reimagine all the good life you lived, the moments you treasured the most, the grievances you carried won’t actually mean anything now; as someone just passed away. Then, you started to peek, and you see a very familiar face. (Who do you see? Who do you picture out?) And then you suddenly realize, it is you.
Do you see the point? The morale of this meditation?
As you begin to rethink; and realize what went wrong. Remember what occur inside your head, what were you thinking when you saw the people inside the church; more specifically what where you thinking when you were actually the one inside the coffin.
Did you live a good life? A fair one to call it quits? Did you do good to affect the people you matter the most?
As you think it through. I knew most part of it.
I did remember telling myself, whom I value the most. Not because you love them, or you are deeply indebted to them. But because he/she gave you the mentoring you deserve when you are only scratching your way through towards the surface.
Now, that you are on top of the triangle. What does matter to you? Fame, Power, Money, Family, Materials, or any that you can think of?
Revisit your memory and visualize who actually can be the best mentor for you? Not just for the aspect that you desire to achieve; but also shaping you in a way you know yourself.
I grew up with a family close to my heart. As I was in the middle of a book, my first mentor passed away; I may be ready for all sorts of things. Because of the value and the leadership he instilled in me, the hardest part was saying farewell.
Although, he made me respect people, regardless of gender, race, status, he thought me almost everything I knew how today, but he never thought me how to say goodbye.
A great mentor lasts. He might never be here guiding you every step of the way. But he sure is living in you.
My dad was my mentor.
“ You may not know now. But your parents was your first mentor. “
