This post will teach you how to tell your extended family to piss off this happy season.

How to Set Boundaries During the Holidays

A point-by-point guide to preserving your mental health and your social battery

The Road to Wellness
9 min readDec 13, 2023


Unsplash Photo by Kevin Curtis with Author Modification in Canva

We’ve all been there, entering our Gran’s house, food is hot from the oven steam and the drinks are pouring. It starts out joyful, jolly even, everyone is in a good mood, and we haven’t seen each other in a while.

But it only takes one drink too many, for someone to decide to make a comment they deem completely neutral.

At that moment, shock and discomfort sit in the air, a heavy cloud above everyone’s head.

The room goes silent. Because everyone else realises how out of place that comment was.

Now you have to walk on eggshells, give them an answer that won’t reciprocate too many comments, an answer that will lead to a change of topic.

Feel like you don’t want this to happen this holiday season?

Keep reading.

Table of Contents

Prepared responses
Know that they will talk about it
Sensitive Topics:
Responses to topics
Change of topic (last straw)



The Road to Wellness

French Canadian artist, writer and fan of Celine Dion (obviously.) — Advocating for mental health and neurodivergence through self improvement and science.