Mar 9
Avoiding Cock Fights with the He/Him progenitors on LinkedIn
This morning, I made a lame attempt at humor on a post about some woman getting some award or something. An He/Him guy immediately thought I was attacking this woman, and immediately started schooling me about “Positivity” in life. I was like, whoa!
For several years now, I have seen many people on Linked In update their profile to He/Him and She/Her and stuff like that. I have no idea what that signifies. I believe it is part of a movement for diversity and inclusiveness.
On an individual level, I am a ‘chaotic’ neutral person to all these things. At the end of the day, my priority to simply earn enough to put food on my table and pay my rent and loan EMIs on time.
I leave activism and related things to folks who have the necessary resources and money and time to do that.
With that, so, the incident, this morning.
Some lady got some award at some college she studied. It was the same college I did my MBA. So, I was happy for her, and I wanted to congragulate her. Sure, sure, awards are very important. I tout what few awards I have won, wherever I go. So, yeah, big whoop to this woman. I made a comment, which was my lame attempt at humor.
For many years, I believed these gold medals were actually made of gold. lol. Congratulations are in order.
That’s all I said. I am not a funny guy, and my attempts at humor are lame. There is that.
I expected everyone to ignore it. Most people simply ignore the comments I write because they probably have better things to do. To me, my lame comments, are better than the “auto generated”, “Congratulations” that most people put on such posts on Linked In.
So, I just wanted to be a little different. is all.
Then, this guy replies. and this has happened before. It’s always a He/Him or She/Her person, concludes that, I am being ‘negative’ or ‘discontent’ or ‘not positive’ in my thoughts. I am paraphrasing what he said.
She has a won an award. You are being negative to her. You should be more positive in life
As I read his comment, I was confused. I decided to put forward my own reply about how I was simply trying to be lamely humorous. There was no negativity implied and so on.
But then, I figured, no. It’s a slippery (insert expletive) slope man, I told myself.
This is a cock fight I don’t want to be in.
It’s only a matter of time before this He/Him person will navigate the conversation to a long-winded discussion about diversity, inclusivity and so and on so forth. Very soon, I will find myself battling it out with an entire army of He/Him and She/Her crowd on social media.
I am full on, live and let live. I immediately deleted my comment, mostly out of fear! I was like, whoa, I got get out of this asap.
I still wanted to genuinely compliment this woman who won an award. So, I did what everybody else did in the comment section.
Congratulations.
I typed. I still miss my lame comment though. Such is life.
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