The Truth About Why Men Want Multiple Partners
There’s a common cliché out there and unfortunately it’s often true: men who are not satisfied by just one woman and always seem tempted to cheat or date multiple women. Why is this? Are all men just horndogs or is there also a deeper aspect?
Have you ever wondered why some men seem to crave multiple sexual partners? Is it just a matter of boredom in the bedroom, or is there something deeper at play?
The truth is, there are many reasons why guys might want to explore their options when it comes to intimacy. From the thrill of novelty to a desire for variety, the psychology of men with multiple partners is complex and fascinating.
In this article, I’ll delve into the reasons behind this behavior and explore what it means for those involved. So buckle up and get ready to learn more.
Why Do Guys Want Multiple Partners?
For centuries this has been a subject of debate among men and women. Despite religious teachings and cultural transformation, a comprehensive answer to the question of men’s desire for more than one sexual partner is still elusive.
Having more than one woman can be handy for men in a variety of ways. Some people argue that men are simply selfish, with an enormous appetite for sexual relations, which cannot be satisfied by a single woman.
Some men support this school of thought, adding that men who make out with more than one woman, are in fact natural adulterers, who can’t control their lust, and need for pleasure. Whether this is true or not, is food for thought for you and me.
This article aims at being objective, as I shed some light on a few meaningful facts that should be considered before throwing men to the Gallows.
It’s important to note that no religious, cultural, or gender disrespect is intended. You are free to disagree with my reasoning, and please feel free to share your thoughts on this sensitive topic in the responses section.
Genetic programming
Despite having different paths in the history of evolution, all organisms in the animal kingdom share certain traits. This could be because all life started from the same source — the primitive single-celled organisms. It is therefore a miss-conception, to view human beings from a totally unique perspective, that separates us from all the other organisms traversing the planet. This also applies to the issue of sexual relations and reproductive science.
In many other organisms, once the female is mated, she no longer wants the male around. Her interest is now the well-being of her future children. Some actively chase the male away and in extreme cases they eat or kill them after mating. Situations in which the male’s life is spared, he wanders off looking for the next available suitor. Among our closest cousins-the primates-there is an Alpha male who will breed with any female within the family group in order to instinctively propagate his traits into the next generation. He often fights off other males to protect his territory.
In humans, the story is similar. Once a woman is pregnant; her chief concern dramatically switches from her mate to the well-being of the baby growing in her womb, and the life thereafter. This goes on until way into the baby's first few years of life (and men need to understand this). The usual requirement for the male is to provide food and to protect the family unit. Now the difference is, humans are emotional beings. So if this goes on long enough the male starts to feel the need to find emotional attention elsewhere, by instincts. (And for men this comes with sex). This, however, doesn’t mean that the man no longer cares for his family unit.
The point is this. Without disruption from modern social and religious teachings, men would be like the primates who work hard (by instinct) to propagate their genes to the next generation. Men are genetically programmed that way. Therefore trying to make men monogamous is fighting natural genetic programming.
You will also note, that women play along to the basic masculine instincts. They work hard to look beautiful and seductive through makeup, mini skirts, tight-fitting pants, and swaying bottoms, all to highlight and give the impression of availability.
Simply put, men are naturally ready to breed with any available mate. And like our animal relatives, women express their availability by accentuating their features to try and get the best available male eye.
Men tend to be naturally insecure
Sounds pathetic, right? But believe it or not, men are afraid that they aren’t that cutting in life. Not just at work, but also at home as husbands, and in their private lives. They may not necessarily vocalize this, but are secretly vulnerable.
To a ‘real man’, affirmation from a female is everything, and they just can’t seem to get enough of it. This is why they are constantly going after the most expensive watch, tie, car, and so forth in order to impress.
It’s this affirmation that grows their confidence and turns them into the most attractive guy every girl covets. I know a guy who openly confessed that it was a life changing experience when one of his secret girlfriends told him that his new pair of boxers looked amazing on him. It helped him feel more comfortable in his body. And don’t be fooled to imagine that it has anything to do with flattery. It must be genuine affirmation, because flattery will soon be busted. The more they get, the more they need.
Sex, duh!!
But sex means more than just sex. Of course its true men want more sex naturally. It’s also easy to assume that men want sex simply to satisfy their lustful desires.
However, many men will tell you that casual sex is in fact not that fulfilling, if there are no genuine heart feelings. Surprisingly, men have this burning desire to be desired. They simply need to be wanted. A man needs to feel desired before they can find sex fulfilling. If this is not availed, they will keep trying elsewhere.
Regular fulfilling sex is important to a man’s general wellbeing and it has a profound effect on the rest of his life. As a man slowly works his way around his woman’s neck, down her spine and so forth, his heart beats faster, blood rushes to his big bulging brain, and his mind goes at ease. A sense of selflessness fills his mind, and all he can think of, is how to bring ecstasy to his woman’s life. No moment in life matches this.
Sex is thus good for a man’s heart. It seems to bring out the best in any man (the selfless nature of a real man). The big question is: “can’t he achieve all this with one woman?” Truth is, everyone is entitled to their opinion. But I will tell you, the more he gets, the better he becomes. And like I said, most women are sometimes not as quick with sex as men are. So a brother needs to have options in case one is not in the mood.
It is also a fact that men enjoy romance, but often doubt their skill to be romantic. Being glued to one woman doesn’t help this at all. He needs to explore and learn. Learn that romance is not just about the art of sex, and the bitter fact that every woman defines romance in her own language.
How Multiple Partners Can Enhance Relationships
While the idea of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) may seem counterintuitive to some, many individuals who practice it report experiencing a range of benefits that enhance their relationships. One of the most commonly cited benefits is diversified need fulfillment. People engaged in CNM often describe their relationships as “getting different mental/emotional/physical needs met” or “not expecting one partner to be ‘everything’ to me.” This allows for a range of experiences and connections that can be difficult to achieve in a monogamous relationship.
In addition, some people engaged in CNM report feeling less pressure to fulfill all of their partners’ needs. This can lead to a more relaxed and open environment where communication is key. By discussing boundaries and expectations ahead of time, partners in CNM relationships are often able to build trust and intimacy in a unique way.
Another benefit of CNM is the ability to explore different aspects of one’s sexuality. By engaging with multiple partners, individuals can discover new desires and preferences that they may not have been aware of before. This can lead to a greater understanding and acceptance of oneself, as well as a deeper connection with one’s partners.
The Dark Side Of Multiple Partners: Examining The Risks And Consequences
While the pursuit of multiple sexual partners may seem exciting and alluring, it is important to consider the potential risks and consequences that come with this behavior.
A study conducted by the Dunedin Multidisciplinary Health and Development Study found that increasing numbers of sexual partners were associated with an increased risk of substance dependence disorder, especially for women. This association persisted beyond prior substance use and mental health problems more generally, highlighting the potential long-term effects of engaging in multiple sexual relationships.
In addition to the risk of substance abuse, having multiple sexual partners can also increase the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). This is especially true for those who engage in unprotected sex or do not practice safe sex practices. STIs can have serious long-term health consequences, including infertility and an increased risk of certain types of cancer.
Furthermore, engaging in multiple sexual relationships can also have negative emotional consequences. It can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and regret, especially if the relationships are not entered into with honesty and transparency. It can also lead to emotional attachment and feelings of jealousy or betrayal when one partner discovers that their significant other is engaging in sexual relationships with others.
However, it’s important to note that seeking multiple partners is not inherently problematic or immoral. Society often stigmatizes non-monogamous relationships, labeling them as deviant or immoral. This stigma can prevent individuals from exploring their desires and pursuing fulfilling relationships that work for them.
It’s important to challenge these societal norms and embrace diversity in intimate relationships. This means recognizing that there is no one “right” way to have a relationship and that individuals should be free to explore their desires as long as all parties involved are consenting adults.
Furthermore, it’s crucial to take into account the diversity of gender and sexual identities when studying intimate relationships. Gender identity and presentation can shape and modify relationship experiences, and failing to consider these aspects can lead to a narrow understanding of relationships.
By breaking the stigma surrounding non-monogamous relationships and embracing diversity in intimate relationships, we can create a more inclusive and accepting society where individuals are free to pursue the relationships that work for them.
