Getting What I Need from an Affair

Meeting My Lover

MonalisaSmiled
May 11, 2020 · 3 min read
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My husband rejects me year after year. Over a half a decade of no sex pushed me to cheat. My lover’s wife doesn’t allow penetration for more than one or two minutes because of pain. They both ignore our needs. They don’t kiss or caress or linger. But we do.

We both know it’s never going to happen. We won’t leave our spouses. No matter how bad it is at home. The costs are too high. The road too steep. We can’t “just leave.”

We can dream about a marriage where we both want the same things but it isn’t going to happen. In fairytales there’s a happy ending. In real life we get compromises. We find what’s missing where we can.

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MonalisaSmiled

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Middle-aged adulteress navigating dead bedrooms and affairs without fear. Adultery 101. Editor of The Scarlett Letter and P.S. I Hate You.

The Scarlett Letter

All things adultery. Sex out of network. We are terrible and human. So are you.

MonalisaSmiled

Written by

Middle-aged adulteress navigating dead bedrooms and affairs without fear. Adultery 101. Editor of The Scarlett Letter and P.S. I Hate You.

The Scarlett Letter

All things adultery. Sex out of network. We are terrible and human. So are you.

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