Moving from Adultery to Ethical Non-Monogamy

Some people weren’t built for monogamy

Trigger Warning — This article discusses how someone ended up in a good relationship. Some readers may find that unsettling.

The older I get, I wonder if I started cheating because I wasn’t getting my needs met (I wasn’t) or if I’m not really a monogamist at heart and just reached a tipping point…



All things adultery. Sex out of network. We are terrible and human. So are you.

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Teresa J Conway 🧚🏻‍♀️

Wife, mother, author, and mature adulteress. Wrote How to Cheat — Field Notes from an Adulteress. Email me at