The Illogical And Ridiculous Reasons Cheaters Stay With Their Partner

Why don’t they leave?

Ellen "Jelly" McRae
The Scarlett Letter
6 min readAug 13, 2022

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When someone cheats, everyone assumes it’s because they’re unhappy with their relationship. There’s something wrong with it, a fundamental flaw, and the cheater has to find someone else to make them happy.

Well, that’s a big assumption.

And it’s an unfounded assumption too. Because if that were true, if the cheater was using their infidelity to get something they aren’t already getting from their relationship, they would end up leaving.

They find something that makes them happy so they go, right?

If not when the cheating happens, with some grand wake-up call, but eventually.

Yet, some cheaters never leave. They end up staying in the relationship that they keep betraying. Forever.

They have no intentions of leaving, either. Even when forced with an ultimatum over their love life, they pick the relationship they’re committed to.

Despite the fact that everything they did suggests a lack of commitment in the first place.

It doesn’t make sense to most, especially those who haven’t cheated. Or for those who’ve cheated and left the relationship straight away out of guilt and sorrow for their…

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Ellen "Jelly" McRae
The Scarlett Letter

I’m here to use my wins and losses in #relationships as your cautionary tale | Writes 1LD; Cautionary tale women's fiction | https://linktr.ee/ellenjellymcrae