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Compatibility vs. Love: How I Mistook One for the Other (And You Are Too)
Masquerading as love — the compatibility trap explained.
Let’s be real: love is confusing. It’s messy, exhilarating, heartbreaking, intoxicating, and sometimes just plain misleading. Love defies logic, and it makes people do crazy things. We’ve all been there. You know, going overboard with seemingly romantic gestures that make you look like a fool. I remember vividly standing outside a house in my hometown waiting for a guy to have a beer with — stupid, I traveled across the country to do that. It wasn’t romantic, and he wasn’t worth the effort. But I digress.
Love clouds our judgment and blurs the lines between hopes, dreams, reality, passion, and illusion. So, when it comes to falling in love, what is real? Are we all simply clueless and pheromone-driven fools? Case in point? The last fling before I met the love of my life.
I thought I was in love.
See, we had the same interests, got along perfectly fine, and always had good interactions overall. However, something was quite off, and it took me quite some time to pinpoint what it was. In the end, we were really compatible. And as it happens, those two things are not the same — not even close.
