How Do You Know If You’re in the Right Relationship For You?

Appreciating the subtle signs of a healthy relationship.

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Let’s be real here. While modern dating has changed due to online dating, most hard truths about dating remain the same. One of the most tantalizing hard truths has to be that when it comes to dating, we’ve become experts in recognizing red flags.

We’re fluent in trauma and, therefore, practically bilingual in red flags. There’s the guy who doesn’t respond to texts after a couple of dates. And just like that, you’ve been ghosted. Then there’s the one constantly talking about his ex-girlfriend on a first date. Or the guy who lies about his relationship status.

We clock these signs like seasoned detectives. We screenshot, dissect, and discuss in group chats. But what if our obsession with spotting red flags prevents us from seeing green flags?

Putting the healthy back into modern dating.

Since we’re all focused, and rightly so, on spotting red flags, most of us forget that these things take a toll on us. We spend so much energy analyzing other people’s behavior, looking for the signs we’ve been warned about, like manipulation, love-bombing, and emotional unavailability, to name a few, that we don’t stop checking in with…