Why Emotional Affairs Are the Ultimate Relationship Threat

The hidden danger that can destroy loving partnerships.

Phoebe Kirke
The Secret Society

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Unlike many others, I believe that being emotionally distant from your partner is the greatest threat to any committed relationship. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or how many difficulties you’ve been able to resolve as a couple. If you were to ask me what I’d dread the most, I would have to say feeling like my partner isn’t being vulnerable with me. What if your partner would prefer talking about what is on his mind to someone else? What would you do?

Can you stop your partner from having an emotional affair?

The thing about emotional affairs is that it’s quite hard to define when they start or at what point they start to impact romantic relationships. I’d say an emotional affair is when you’re sharing things about yourself that not even your partner knows with someone — and that regularly. I think it can happen to us quickly that we get on very well with someone and talk about our problems occasionally. That doesn’t have much to do with an emotional affair. But if it feels like you want to discuss and share everything with this one person and at the same time don’t think about your partner, then something is wrong.

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Phoebe Kirke
The Secret Society

Feminist, activist, sister, but above all, hurt. Writing is my path to living life to the fullest.