Why Is It So Hard to Find the Perfect Life Partner?

High expectations, values, chance, and other obstacles

Phoebe Kirke
The Secret Society

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Photo by Ryan Young on Unsplash

Dating is hard work. Especially when considering shifting societal expectations, technology, and a pandemic. It’s hard to open up to someone while trying not to get hurt. Unfortunately, when it comes to love, getting hurt is inevitable. And although it’s hard for many, finding the perfect life partner has to be the most important and hardest thing they ever do.

Nothing is more challenging than finding someone to love forever.

But why is that the case? What factors play a major role when we are looking for the people in our lives? And how well do we need to know ourselves to know what we are looking for and where we can find someone? And lastly, is it even realistic to look for a forever person? I think the closest we can get to a forever person is to find someone we’ll never lose respect for, no matter what happens. Knowing that we have someone in our life who loves us dearly, both romantically and as a friend. So, where do you find this person?

Knowing who you are and where you’re going.

I have always been intrigued and a bit jealous of high school sweethearts. Especially when I was feeling down and wasn’t sure whether finding love was…

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Phoebe Kirke
The Secret Society

Feminist, activist, sister, but above all, hurt. Writing is my path to living life to the fullest.