Failure is a Mindstate

Kurt Anderson
Jan 24 · 4 min read

Not a lifestyle

“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is a delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” — Denis Waitley

When I think about my life in regard to failure there isn’t much I have failed at. For everything, I've made mistakes in was not failure but a means to polish myself off. Deciding that failure is a state of mind was the best thing I could have done for myself. Releasing myself from these mental shackles gave me the clarity to see life as it really is. Now giving up is another story! There is no such thing as growth without mistakes!

I’ve done many things and mistakes were always there to greet me when learning. I love comparing the new me to the mistakes I’ve made before because it always turns into empowerment. This is how growth really happens, through the realization that failure is a choice but mistakes are unavoidable. You have many options when trekking the harsh terrains of life so be sure not to choose failure. And if you come to the truth within that somethings, not for you, let it go before it brings you to a wall of feeling like a failure.

“There is no failure except in no longer trying.” — Chris Bradford

So many folks I know have categorized themselves as failures, they’ve made up in their minds that they live a stroke of bad luck. What is failure? Honestly, I’m not sure but from what I can see as a state of mind. Failure tends to be the reason so many stay in their comfort zone or never excel to their own standards. It generally starts at a young age, a child is taught to feel incompetent or in lack. When failure is proclaimed to be the only option for an unruly child, it tends to stick into adulthood. Most parents feel this way because they set out with an idea or plan growing up, that never came to fruition. Maybe something unexpected happened along the way or someone said they weren’t good enough, this is enough for most to quit and never try again! This is true failure. Giving up is what leads to the belief that this is who you are!

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” — Thomas A. Edison

Whatever it may be that you do or attempting, know that messing up is the best friend to success. I say your success depends on how much you are willing to fail or start all over as the greats have stated. Many avoid starting somethings over, due to the fact that they don’t really want to do it. As well as the idea that they could never be great at a task so why give it your all. The actual desire to learn and grow from mistakes is what separates doers from the quitters. The process of making mistakes should be fun as you acknowledge, where you are in regard to how far you’ve come and where you're going. The people that can acknowledge these blueprints of living life, generally know where they're going. If you know where you’re going most likely you’ll get there. Let mistakes be just that, let them be keys to growth not quitting which leads to failure!

Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use. — Earl Nightingale

No this isn’t a productivity skit or a believe in yourself segment. More so I’m saying don’t be fooled by yourself or others into thinking you’re a failure. Just because you’ve made a few mistakes and hit a few bumps in the road. Let these things be apart of the fun, after all, it's about the journey, not the destination right? What fun would anyone stories be without the parts where they triumphed over adversity and found a way. These parts of life are like the glue that holds us all together when you share with others about your mishaps. You find many have experienced very similar things on their path, which in return leads most to keep going. Knowing they're not alone on the climb. Failure in my opinion comes from the inability to try harder or start back at the drawing board amongst others. Failure doesn’t mean you’re not good enough but it does mean there's better in you, just correct some mistakes and you’re gravy! I believe in You!

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A seeker of truth and kinship. Artist , Entrepreneur, Sous Chef, Healer, Empath, Philosopher, Explorer

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