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Forgiving My Father

I forgive my father for his emotional unavailability and reconnect with self-compassion and security

Photo credit: Sun Ling Ping

In his book “The Forgiving Self,” Robert Karen gives a great explanation for how secure attachment in children is developed. It comes from a healthy cycle of fight and repair between children and their parents. Children start out with the idea that their parents…




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Jennifer L.

Jennifer L.

I write about my experience as a second generation Asian American, mental health, and female empowerment. Contact me at

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