How Can I Share My Dark Past without Traumatizing My Kid?

Your Other Dad says don’t hurry to share the pain — and have a goal when you do.

David Valdes
May 8 · 4 min read
Photo: Liza Summer for Pexels.

Dear Other Dad —

I’ve been wondering about how parents can safely share their own histories of trauma/abuse without harming their kids. I’m grappling with how my mother shared her history of sexual abuse with me when I was 13, which resulted in me experiencing some trauma as well, especially since it was being shared as a way for me to help her carry the burden of her own unresolved trauma.

How can parents share their difficult pasts without passing on the trauma and responsibility to their kids?

— ASPAP

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David Valdes is a Cuban-American playwright and author. He’s written about family, race, and LGBTQ issues for the New York Times, Boston Globe, and HuffPo.

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