How Can I Tell if Someone I Like is Gay?

Your Other Dad says you have options — but only after you consider why you need to know.

David Valdes
Mar 8 · 5 min read

Dear Other Dad —

I don’t know how to ask if this girl I know is into girls. I genuinely don’t know if she’s straight or not. I’m widely known as straight too, but I’m definitely not.

— Dot.vom

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