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I Quit Being Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men

By realizing that I’m the emotionally unavailable one

Photo credit: Hoang Loc

I had a repetitive compulsion problem where I kept gravitating towards emotionally unavailable men. They were either not interested and I kept pursuing them despite their lack of interest, or they were interested but only in something casual. They would not be able or willing to…




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Jennifer L.

Jennifer L.

I write about my experience as a second generation Asian American, mental health, and female empowerment. Contact me at

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