My Straight Kid is Flying the Gay Flag on Social Media — And I Want Her to Stop

Your Other Dad says you might not really know what she’s signalling

David Valdes
Apr 20 · 4 min read

Dear Other Dad —

My child, who says she’s not gay, posted photos of herself with the gay pride flag on Instagram because she said it will get her more followers. We have gay family members and I think her post does not respect what they went through in real life. It just exploits being gay for likes. Should I make her take the photo down?

— Tired of Social Media

Photo: Sharon McCutcheon for Pexels

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