What I Wish I Knew Before the Death of a Loved One
I thought grieving was straight-forward, so I wasn’t prepared for how the death of a loved one almost destroyed me.
Call me naive, but I thought the whole ordeal of death, no matter how painful, was still simple.
Someone dies, you grieve.
Grieving wouldn’t be easy, of course not, but at least it was straight-forward. There was a clear process; the death, the mourning period and a healing point. A quick search on google and you’ll get step-by-step guides, a plethora of information and how-tos to help you get through it.
So, when I finally experienced the death of a loved one, I was terrifyingly confused. I couldn’t find the help I needed. There was so much more to it than just grieving. Why wasn’t I aware of this? It not only blindsided me but heightened my pain and irrevocably changed my life.
Then and now.
It’s a point in someone’s life that was so life-changing that it splits their life into a then (before it happened) and a now (after it happened). This is what happened to me at the age of 25 when my grandmother died. She was the only grandparent I ever had, and I lived with her since my teens. To say she was a big part of my world would be a massive…
