Feeling Powerless Doesn’t Mean You Are Powerless
Emotions are our guides, not our bosses
Painful emotions once leveled me. Especially those that stemmed from romantic relationships.
I would share my tales of woe with anyone who’d listen. I would distract myself by creating chaos. I would embody my inner martyr.
I would fuel my feelings of hurt with thoughts of the incident and person, which would further fuel the feeling, creating more thoughts.
I would become a walking wound, bleeding into every other part of my life and the people in it.
In recovery from codependency, I am learning that feeling hurt is a signal to get still and feel. This may look like curling up in a ball, hugging my inner girl, and crying for a few minutes.
I soothe her with words of compassion. “I’m here. I’ve got you. I love you.” I am the inner parent taking care of me.
How do you take care of yourself when you feel hurt?
