ADVICE
In times past it was always considered wise to ask counsel from someone with gray hair. Grandma would tell you the truth and not care a whit about your feelings. And if you insisted on having a hurtful expression, she’d whack you about the ears for being a whiny baby. It has occurred to me the current generation no longer seeks worldly advice from the silver-haired crowd.
Of course, Better-Half, after leaning over my shoulder and reading the beginning of this story, commented very quickly that I’m bald.
“You don’t have those long silver locks which reek of wisdom.” Oh well, sometimes those closest to you have a hard time recognizing brilliance.
The first question I noticed in one of the new advice columns concerned an ungrateful nephew (21 years old) who hadn’t written a thank you note for a cash gift. The generous aunt was hurt and just couldn’t figure out what to do. After a thousand words of advice from this new manner’s guru, all of which said nothing, the aunt still didn’t have an answer.
My southern grandmother’s advice would have been quick and sure. “Don’t send the ungrateful little rascal any more gifts! And if he is so crass to ask why, be sure to tell him the truth. You don’t deserve one because you have the manners of a Billy goat.”
I’m sure this lady would be shocked at her reply and return with a few more questions, trying to find an excuse for her nephew’s boorish behavior. People generally do that when confronted with an answer they don’t like.
Sidebar: (One of my grandmother’s next-door neighbors came to her one night for advice. The local police signaled their teenage son to pull over for a traffic violation. Just beginning his stupid years, he decided to outrun the police. It didn’t work out as planned. Ole Junior called his parents to come bail him out. His parents asked my grandmother for advice.
“Should we go pay the fine and bring him home?”
“By all means, no!” she quickly suggested. “Go down there, take a picture of him behind bars, and frame it for your living room. Make sure any visiting guest can see it. If they don’t notice it, be sure to point it out!”
(They followed this wise woman’s advice.)