What it means to love a person suffering from anxiety
What if I lose you
If I lose you
I lose you
You are precious as a gem, all may agree,
but that anxious friend of yours in the room will just gaze at you without blinking even once and pray that she never loses you.
Well, she won’t just pray,
but will play ten thousand scenes in her head where she is losing you. Undoubtedly, she will panic and stand up and move closer to you and will hold you in a tight embrace, in her mind.
Because anxiety doesn’t let you express.
Because,
What if you don’t respond,
If you don’t respond
You don’t respond
It petrifies her.
You are her anchor, her world.
What if it comes crashing down,
how will she get back up?
She will show her care by scolding you for troubles troubling her because,
the what ifs don’t go away.
When you party with that other friend of yours,
she has already replaced herself in your life, in her mind, obviously.
You will find her needy.
You will find her cribbing.
You will find her the exact opposites of what she finds you —
secure, self-assured.
She needs you, but she isn’t needy.
She troubles you, but it is she who is troubled.
If you can, please don’t doubt her love.
Anxiety is love over expressed.
You may find it overwhelming and take her scoldings to heart.
If you can, instead, pull her closer to your heart.
All she needs
is a hug,
a shoulder,
a hand and she will sleep soundly in her mind.
If you can, instead, tell her you love her just as much and that you won’t leave.
Tell her and she will be calm,
Calmer than the sea, happier than the seals.
But don’t chide her for what she feels,
she cannot control what she ought to,
so she controls everything that she doesn’t need to.
Because,
What if you love her,
If you love her,
You love her.She will find the courage to love herself like she loves you.
