Sympathetic vs Empathetic Technical Program Managers

Doron Katz
The TPM Toolkit
Published in
3 min readJul 18, 2023

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As a technical program manager, possessing strong interpersonal skills is foundational, considering you manage without formal authority. Building relationships, earning trust is paramount.

Two terms that often arise in this context are “sympathy” and “empathy.” While they may appear similar, they have distinct meanings and implications. In this article, we will explore the difference between a sympathetic and an empathetic technical program manager, shedding light on their unique qualities and contributions to successful project management.

Sympathetic Technical Program Managers

Sympathy is the ability to understand and express feelings of compassion towards another person’s experiences, struggles, or emotions. A sympathetic technical program manager recognizes and acknowledges the challenges faced by team members or stakeholders. They exhibit a genuine concern for their well-being and are able to offer support and assistance when needed. Sympathy often manifests through acts of kindness, compassion, and listening. A sympathetic technical program manager demonstrates:

  1. Supportive communication: They actively listen to team members, providing a safe space for expressing concerns, frustrations, or difficulties.
  2. Compassionate problem-solving: They prioritize addressing challenges faced by team members and seek viable solutions that alleviate their pain points.
  3. Emotional intelligence: They possess a keen awareness of their own emotions and those of others, allowing them to navigate conflicts or sensitive situations with sensitivity.
  4. Team cohesion: They foster an environment of trust and collaboration, promoting a sense of unity and camaraderie among team members.

Empathetic Technical Program Managers

Empathy, on the other hand, goes beyond understanding and compassion. Empathy is the ability to step into someone else’s shoes and truly share their emotional experiences. An empathetic technical program manager not only acknowledges the challenges faced by team members but actively seeks to understand their perspectives, motivations, and needs. They strive to create an environment where individuals feel heard, valued, and understood. An empathetic technical program manager demonstrates:

  1. Deep understanding: They make a conscious effort to comprehend the emotions, experiences, and perspectives of team members, enabling them to make informed decisions and provide appropriate support.
  2. Adaptability and flexibility: They adjust their management style to accommodate the diverse needs and working styles of team members, fostering an inclusive and collaborative work environment.
  3. Emotional support: They offer emotional support to team members during stressful periods, showing empathy and understanding when personal or professional challenges arise.
  4. Empowerment and growth: They encourage the professional development of team members by identifying their strengths, providing constructive feedback, and creating opportunities for growth.

Both sympathetic and empathetic technical program managers possess valuable qualities that contribute to effective project management and team dynamics. While a sympathetic manager shows genuine concern and support, an empathetic manager takes it a step further by immersing themselves in the experiences and emotions of their team members. By leveraging their emotional intelligence, both types of managers can foster trust, collaboration, and productivity within their teams, ultimately leading to successful project outcomes.

Ultimately, the choice between being sympathetic or empathetic as a technical program manager depends on the context and the unique needs of the team members. Striking a balance between sympathy and empathy allows managers to create a supportive and understanding environment while effectively driving project success.

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Doron Katz
The TPM Toolkit

Senior Technical Program Manager at Axon, ex- Amazon. Published author of Continuous Delivery, and various LinkedIn Learning courses.