4 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Behavior is Problematic
You’re not being too sensitive, it’s actually not okay
A woman I met online, let’s call her Sarah, wanted to know if she was being too sensitive. She spent an hour or more each day cleaning, but her partner was constantly critical of the “mess” she made.
“I guess I am quite messy,” she said. “He’s really good at seeing the fine details. I just don’t see them.”
I asked her a few questions and found out his criticism wasn’t for piles of clutter, or stacks of unwashed dishes. No, he was upset about the handprint left on a door after pushing it open, a neat pile of magazines on the coffee table that were not in their “right place”, or a small streak left on the mirror after cleaning.
Perhaps he has OCD, and that’s a whole other issue, but what I heard was a woman who was afraid of her partner. Afraid of letting him down with her perceived lack of attention to detail; afraid of being a disappointment; afraid of his lectures; afraid he would leave her.
He’d left her feeling it was her fault. That she wasn’t enough and needed to do better. And when she got upset about his lectures, she was told she was being too sensitive.
