7 Bitter Pills to Swallow to Fix Your Broken Heart

How to Mend a Broken Heart Quickly with Life’s Harsh Truths

Jasmin El-i
Oct 29, 2020 · 8 min read
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1. It’s going to hurt, like hell.

That’s right, you can’t avoid getting through the pain, but the good news is, it won’t stay. It will eventually vanish. It’s like the flu that has to run its course. You’ll be miserable for weeks and probably months, but it won’t last forever. You have to keep in mind that it’s not permanent. Your grief and loneliness will fade away sooner or later. Just grieve, cry it out. It won’t bother you anymore once you pass this stage.

2. There’s no such thing as closure so stop waiting for it.

“Closure has come to me myself
You will never belong to me
The closure has come to my myself.
You will never belong to me …”

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3. It’s finished. Stop Googling How to get back with your ex or how soon before your ex contacts you, or why your ex broke up with you.

4. It’s done. It’s over. Stop waiting for their text or call.

Ditch your phone and avoid social media while you’re still aching. They’re not going to text or call you. When they do, don’t entertain it. It usually ends in disaster. The relationship ended because it had to. Communicating so soon can only aggravate an already fragile situation. Don’t text or call them, hoping they’ll come running back to you. Don’t waste your precious time waiting for a reconciliatory message or a call that might never come.

5. They’re not that into you.

You must have read the book or seen the movie? One of my sisters didn’t like the film. She thinks there are many reasons why a person ends a relationship.

6. Feelings change over time.

Yes, you must have done everything you could to appease them. You’ve sacrificed your own time and happiness to see them fulfill their dreams. You forgot about yourself in the process of loving them, and yet, they’ve chosen to be with someone else. It’s harsh, but feelings change over time, and there’s nothing we can do about it. The most hurtful fact is that you can’t make anybody love you no matter what you do. You can’t force anyone to stay.

7. Rejection sucks, but it is a part of life.

We sometimes get spoilt by the way things get done in our favor. Disappointments barely come by, so we get this notion that nothing can go wrong, and no one can refuse us.

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Jasmin El-i

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Traveler,photographer, risk-taker, language trainer, aspiring wordsmith, and at the moment — a hobo :)

The Virago

We are a community of strong women who share our personal stories about how we’ve survived and thrived in our lives. We share our messages to heal and help others learn from our experiences

Jasmin El-i

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Traveler,photographer, risk-taker, language trainer, aspiring wordsmith, and at the moment — a hobo :)

The Virago

We are a community of strong women who share our personal stories about how we’ve survived and thrived in our lives. We share our messages to heal and help others learn from our experiences

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