How Narcissists Continue Their Abuse Even After You’ve Separated
The physical distance you put between is no match for their determination to hurt you
In a normal divorce or separation, “normal” meaning two emotionally healthy people involved in the breakup, each party makes the attempt to pick up the pieces, heal their heartbreak, and move forward toward a better life.
Although I hate this phrase with every bone in my body, when two emotionally healthy people separate, they do actually “move on.” This isn’t to say their broken hearts may still take time to mend, but it’s understood that a separation means just that. A parting. A detachment. A farewell, whether a conscious uncoupling or hitting the road with your soles on fire. Peace out. Hasta la vista, baby. Out the door, dinosaur.
And the inevitable finding someone else to “move on” with.
None of this is possible with a narcissist. For the same reason they asserted control while you were in the relationship, they believe they’re still entitled to that control even when the relationship is over.
For narcissists, it’s not about moving on. It’s not about moving forward.
