Stop Encouraging My 15-Year-Old Sister to Be a Sex Worker
Exposing the dark secrets of OnlyFans & bullshit feminism
OnlyFans is bad for women.
There’s simply no denying it.
It is a platform that profits off the pornographication of everyday girls & women, under the false banner of “empowerment”.
OnlyFans tells women and girls that they are objects for people’s consumption and, that for the right price, they can be made to do anything.
This is why young boys are asking their female peers at school:
“How much would it take for you to suck my d*ck?” — something said to my teenage sister.
And no one bats an eye.
The Influencers
The OnlyFans platform hides behind the voices of people who say that they feel empowered by the platform and love the control it offers them — this begs the question, what exactly do they feel like they have control over?
Make no mistake, their “fans” are not encouraged to be chivalrous nor upstanding citizens. Most creators have no control over where their content eventually ends up or how it gets used. Once they have been paid for their services, people will continue to exploit and profit off their content in ways that are less than kosher.
Despite the risks, influencers and celebrities are still promoting OnlyFans as a liberating way to make money. These women who promote OnlyFans to an audience of impressionable and vulnerable teens are doing them a serious disservice.
One of the most adored icons of this generation Queen B, (Beyonce) — gave OnlyFans a shoutout that drastically increased the number or girls joining the site. Shouldn’t Beyonce want more for young girls? Seriously, why are celebrities encouraging an entire generation of young women to create porn for random men in their bedrooms?
The Kids Aren’t Safe
The most troubling aspect of the platform is that OnlyFans directly targets minors. Everything in their marketing tactics is aimed at young and impressionable teenage girls.
- One third of all OnlyFans accounts promoted on Twitter are minors.
- OnlyFans “age verification” process is extremely poor, and it allows for minors to access the platform with minimal effort.
What’s even more concerning, is the platform has hidden its nefarious and exploitative nature behind an approachable & friendly, Instagram-esque branding strategy. It is such a devious and well manicured facade, for a platform that promotes some of the worst online behaviour imaginable.
What happens on OnlyFans is hidden behind a paywall, which makes it nearly impossible for child protective services and sex-trafficking agencies to monitor what is going on behind its closed doors. This feature makes it a hive for traffickers to pimp out their youthful products with a lower risk of ever getting caught.
While sex traffickers and pimps have been exploiting vulnerable girls to make money for decades, what’s new about Only Fans is that it is successfully “empowering” other women to do it to each other.
Essentially, the platform works like a pyramid scheme. As a “creator”, you can make a 5% commission off anyone’s first years earnings by getting them to sign up to OnlyFans using your referral link.
This explains why women are promoting OnlyFans so passionately. They aren’t doing it because they love the platform, they’re just clued-in to how much money they can from commissions alone.
Let’s break down the numbers and see just how much a successful influencer stands to make off the referral program:
The average creator can expect to earn approximately $180 per month on the platform. This is a total of $2,160 dollars a year. Now, if an influencer with a large audience can entice 500 new girls to the platform, they stand to earn $54,000 from referrals alone.
This also explains why so many influencers often lie about how much #coin they’re making and fail to warn others of just how difficult it is to make a reasonable income unless you already have a large following.
Ultimately, these women aren’t shouting messages of sexual liberation from the rooftops because they want to “empower” young girls, they are luring financially vulnerable girls onto the platform to make themselves richer. They are nothing more than glorified pimps.
It’s Not Social Media. It’s Sex Work.
We need to stop pretending that OnlyFans is social media.
OnlyFans is pornography — sex work.
While some girls may feel “empowered” by the decision to enter the sex industry — the overwhelming majority of girls are entering into it without any understanding of the repercussions.
They are entering a world of exploitation as if it were simply a natural progression of social media. What’s the difference between a bikini photo for likes and a topless pic for money? Our sexualised culture has groomed us into believing that having Instagram, TikTok, or Twitter, are just the precursors for doing porn.
Becoming involved in the pornography business has serious repercussions, and there is a price to entering the industry that few of these influencers are willing to discuss.
While “Fans” may pay fees for nude images, videos, and livestreams, it is the “creators” who pay the high price of psychological, emotional, and physical harm that the sex industry imparts.- National Centre on Sexual Exploitation.
Just take a look at the men who own and operate OnlyFans. They’ve been hiring recruiters to target young girls and women whilst promoting sex work as this fun, normal thing.
Ask yourself — what kind of values do they hold for women? What kind of feminism do they believe in?
Bullshit Feminism
We are doing some serious mental gymnastics if we think getting on camera and selling our bodies to random boys and men on the internet is female empowerment.
- Where did we lose sight of what “empowerment” actually means?
- When did we forget that feminism is about reminding society that we are more than just objects of sexual desire?
- Why have we thrown out the idea that women’s bodies should be their own?
Women should be able to enjoy sex and sexual relations — not as performers, not as tools for male sexual fantasies, but as fellow human beings — as equals.
If you think you have the upper hand in a power dynamic that allows you to choose which parts of your naked body you want to sell online in the comfort and “safety” of your own bedroom then you are severely misguided.
You are being dehumanised. If you think that is an exaggeration, look at how the platform works. People are paying for your services, except the service is you. You are the product. Anonymous, horny punters are buying images and videos of your body, and they are paying for your compliance to their sexual fantasies.
OnlyFans has successfully rebranded of one of the oldest professions in the book. It’s taken plain old sex work and porn and made it look glamorous, lucrative, even desirable.
There has always been a handful of women who offer their bodies as commodities for sex (this does not include the women who are manipulated, coerced, or trafficked into the industry) and these women may be suited to such work. But let’s not pretend that this represents most women.
Porn Harms Girls and Women
This is not an opinion. This is a fact:
- It harms those involved in the industry — physically and psychologically.
- It harms those who are trafficked and exploited, those who have their abuse uploaded.
- It harms those who find themselves in unsafe situations with boys and men who have consumed violent, degrading pornography.
- It harms women by placing awful and unrealistic expectations on what real sex looks like, and it utterly disregards the differences between male and female pleasure.
- It harms children who are exposed to pornography as young as 6 due to the lack of age restrictions, and those who are groomed by their abusers by making them watch pornographic content.
Porn propagates the belief that sex is a performance and it treats girls and women as highly sexualised objects. The unfettered access to unlimited free pornography has affected so many of our lives, regardless of whether we are consumers of it or not. Now we are telling women that it is an empowering thing to be a part of, that they can now be in “control” of their own sexual exploitation.
What Are We Really Promoting?
OnlyFans is teaching a generation of men, that girls are tools for sexual gratification. Girls are not living, human beings who deserve respect. They are merely the physical extension of sexy digital avatars that can be made to do anything for the right price.
OnlyFans and pornography more broadly teaches men that female bodies are for pleasure and consumption. By allowing this platform to go unchecked we are developing the worst parts of the male psyche simply because a very small number of people are making money off it.
Pornography consumption is proven to lead to aggressive, dehumanising behaviours towards women. We know it harms people’s ability to have meaningful relationships and we know how addictive pornographic content is.
We are now openly telling young boys and grown men that paying for sexual content is completely normal, and that women themselves find it empowering. We are teaching men that girl’s bodies and their sexual compliance is just another app that you can ‘subscribe to’, and that it is flattering to pay them for their bodies.
Sexual objectification occurs when people perceive others as sex objects, rather than complex human beings deserving of dignity and respect. In fact, in a review of research on sexual violence, two leading experts called sexual objectification the “common thread” that connects different forms of sexual violence. — Fight The New Drug
I’d like to make a very clear point:
“No one who willingly sells their body on OnlyFans is allowed to complain about toxic masculinity.”
No one who normalizes a platform that encourages minors and women to engage in virtual sex with strangers, can say that they worry for their safety, or that they are concerned about how prevalent sexual abuse is.
How can you claim empowerment on a platform that grooms and aggressively targets minors into getting naked online? How can you claim female liberation when you support a platform that works as a safe haven for traffickers and pimps — a platform where “content” will be forever in other people’s hands?
Girls Are Hurting Girls
My issue is not that a few, grown women are deciding to jump into the world of sex work at their own discretion — it is that they are raving about it to an impressionable audience that hangs on every word.
Stop telling my 15-year-old sister how much money she can make by being a sex worker. Stop lying about how much money you are earning and stop leading her into thinking she can do the same. You are either hazardously opportunistic or truly misguided.
If you truly believe that OnlyFans is the new generation of #woke feminism then please #educateyourself before you go promoting it to others.
If you want to learn more about what’s actually happening in the lives of young women — head over to my YouTube Channel & my Podcast where I talk about these topics at length.
If the rates of depression, anxiety, self harm and sexual abuse are anything to go by — these issues need to be talked about loudly and openly, even if they are not the most “popular” things to be discussing on social media.
I also want to give my heartfelt thanks to Jared A. Brock for his work that addresses porn addiction and the very real horrors that make up the foundation of the porn industry.
