What All Women of Any Age Need to Quit Right Now

Our mental health depends on it

Suzanna Quintana
The Virago
Published in
8 min readOct 16, 2023

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This isn’t a “Women Over Fifty” kind of piece since wherever a gal is on the spectrum of life shouldn’t factor into the rules she plays by.

Why did I have to wait until my fifties, for example, to be told it’s okay to say no and put myself first? Did the previous three decades of my adult life not warrant the same advice?

As a woman, I should add, since men don’t have such lists written for them.

“5 Things Women Over 50 Need to Stop Doing”

“10 Clothing Choices Women Over 50 Need to Stop Making”

“50 Things No Woman Should Say After 50”

While I admit I didn’t read through all 50 ways to police a woman’s speech since I’m frankly tired as shit of people telling me how to talk, every Google search I made regarding rules for women came up the same:

We slice up her life by decades and then dole out advice per slice.

This doesn’t make sense.

Okay sure, at 55 you won’t catch me wearing Daisy Dukes and doing kamikaze shots before belting out Livin’ on a Prayer on karaoke night — all on the list of what women over 50 aren’t supposed to do.

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Suzanna Quintana
The Virago

My voice is my superpower. Editor-in-Chief of The Virago. Founder of The Online Sanctuary for Healing After Narcissistic Abuse. www.suzannaquintana.com