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Why Did We All Pick Violent Men?

A multi-generational puzzle I badly want to solve

Photo by Sinitta Leunen on Unsplash

My first serious relationship was with the man who I would go on to marry, and who fathered my first child. I was smitten with that man. I loved him with pure, fierce devotion, a feeling I haven’t ever had since and had never felt before. I just adored him. Even after he started to hit me.




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Lover of words, books, hiking, nature and big skies. Running is my favourite thing (after the words & the books). As feisty as I need to be.

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