Women Who Can’t Have Female Friends Are Misogynists
It’s not a good thing to be only as womanly as men would like you to be.
“I just find women too hard to be friends with. I can’t have female friends,” was how one of the final conversations we’d ever had started. My brows furrowed, considering I was a woman and I’d considered us friends. “Like you’re cool and all but for the most part I’m friends with mostly dudes. It’s just easier. Less drama.”
I found this revelation particularly shocking, especially since it was so outside of my experience. I’d always had such a hard time being friends with men because there was often a flirtatious angle. It’d start out friendly, but eventually, I’d realize they never wanted to be just friends.
They took me wanting to be friends as less of a boundary and more of a challenge. Something that was always uncomfortable and off-putting.
However, she’s not the only woman I’d heard with that sentiment. Frankly, I remember at a point in my life feeling that it was cooler to have lots of male friends. Female friends seemed less valuable to my life.
I’ve since realized it’s internalized misogyny.
The idea that female friends are inherently more difficult to have comes from several internalized, misogynist…
