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Want to be Happy and Healthy? Stop Trying to “Love Yourself” and Do This Instead

Where does self-hatred come from?

“If you look at the world, you’ll be distressed. If you look within, you’ll be depressed. If you look at God you’ll be at rest.” — Corrie Ten Boom

“I stood there…and could not. Betsie had died in that place — could he erase her slow terrible death simply for the asking?”

Enter self-deception

What is love, really?

If you really loved yourself, you would want to be the best version of yourself

There are better things to think of besides you

Don’t try to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps

I knew [forgiveness] not only as a commandment of God, but as a daily experience. Since the end of the war I had had a home in Holland for victims of Nazi brutality.

Those who were able to forgive their former enemies were able also to return to the outside world and rebuild their lives, no matter what the physical scars. Those who nursed their bitterness remained invalids. It was as simple and as horrible as that.

The current started in my shoulder, raced down my arm, sprang into our joined hands. And then this healing warmth seemed to flood my whole being, bringing tears to my eyes.

“I forgive you, brother!” I cried. “With all my heart!”

Focus on someone else

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and love your neighbor as yourself.

True self-love

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