How To Raise Kids That Other People Like

You want to like your kids too — but it doesn’t happen automatically

Vuyo Ngcakani
The Dad Vault
Published in
6 min readApr 30, 2021

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Photo by Lacie Slezak on Unsplash

You’ve seen them. You know them.

They are screaming toddlers in stores; they don’t give up their seats to the elderly; they talk back rudely, and they are selfish and inconsiderate.

Who are they?

They are kids you don’t like. They come in every age, race, gender, and size. Every time you see them or interact with them, you’d like to take them outside and whip some sense into them. A stern talking to wouldn’t cut it. They need some form of punishment, something that will help them see the error of their ways.

It’s not their fault. No kid is born a tyrant. At some point, they exhibited tyrant tendencies, and they weren’t checked. They were allowed to continue, and like a wound that’s left to fester, they became septic.

It isn’t always easy. Some kids are tough to raise. They’re aggressive, obstreperous, and hard to control. Sometimes it’s easier to give in to their demands than to stand your ground and show them who’s boss. Who wants to be around a child throwing a tantrum in the middle of Costco? It’s quieter to let them have the chocolate-covered almonds.

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Vuyo Ngcakani
The Dad Vault

writer, husband for 28 years, father of 3, grandfather of 2. I write about fatherhood, parenting, Christianity, & other topics. https://vuyongcakani.com