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Have you ever heard of ‘Imposter Syndrome’?

I first came across this term on a Youtube video on The School of Life ’s channel (if you don’t know about it you should definitely subscribe to them) In short, Imposter Syndrome is the phenomenon (particularly among high-achieving individuals) when you’re convinced that you’re a ‘fraud’ in what you do, and do not deserve the success you’ve achieved. …

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Hygge. A concept that I have never heard of before arriving at Copenhagen, yet has taken the internet by storm lately. Countless blogposts, articles and even books have been published about it, teaching people how they can implement a bit of this Danish sense of ‘cosyness’ to everyday living. If you don’t already know what hygge is, read this article and it might give you a basic idea of what this current internet craze is all about.

People seemed to have found many ways to display hygge. Good friends, loved ones — 20+ candles, dim lights! A warm cup of tea, a good book, and of course, a home cooked meal from our 40+ recipes! — What a way to monetise people’s longing for this Scandinavian way of quality living! Capital H hygge to capital P perfection. Sadly I see it as very ironic that, the essence of hygge (at least from the POV of an outsider living in Denmark) is being misunderstood, or worse, even twisted gradually into yet another aesthetic trend. …

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There’s one thought that hasn’t really left my mind since arriving in Copenhagen 11 months ago: it’s becoming more apparent to myself that I really, really enjoy living in between changes.

Somehow along the way of studying and working abroad I’ve learned to love changes and inconsistency in life. On the face of it seems opposite to having a routine lifestyle that everyone preaches. Forming habits is cool, right? Knowing what you need to do everyday, having something to look forward to.

Habits are what define you, or at least how other people perceive you. Think of habits as indefinite formulas in life with countless variables: colour palette of clothes, time you get up, transport time to school/work, hobbies you have, number of friends you talk to everyday. You name it. And then there are some (relatively) ‘long term habits’ such as the location you’re living in, whether you’re a student or working… and that’s how you normally form an easy-to-digest, summarised version of yourself or your life. …

Indulgence as self-care and restrictions as liberation.

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In society, we link ‘indulgence’ with a slight sense of ‘guilt’ or simply, ‘lack of control’. We see indulging as an excessive amount of time is being spent on a certain activity, a guilty pleasure, a wrong act of lavishness — whether it’s an item of food, a bubble bath, a shopping spree, or simply time doing absolutely nothing productive.

The concept of indulgence in everyday life is so tied up with doing something ‘extra’ or the idea of ’treating yourself’, to a point where ‘restriction’ becomes a lot of peoples’ default mindset.

Everyday you hear people say they limit themselves to consuming a certain amount of something / time, that they won’t ‘go over the limit’. That they exercise self control because you’re not supposed to do what you want, spend your time on what you want to do, eat what you desire. …

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