Where & How to Buy a Wife? — Is It Still Possible in 2024?

Philippe Berry
TheTravellingFrenchMan
10 min readJun 25, 2024

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Modern people lead such busy lifestyles that they forget they do not live to work but work to live. Many just don’t have enough time for love, a relationship, and family, so they wake up after 40 and miss out on a big chunk of romance. I think that the world needs to sort out its priorities…

But thankfully, it’s not a lost cause anymore, regardless of your age.

Though you can’t buy a wife from abroad in the traditional sense, you can get that happy ending you dream of with the help of specialized sites without spending years dating someone who is not right or not on the same page as you.

Why should we make our lives harder if we can simplify them by “buying a wife” online?

And that’s what I want to talk about — how to buy a wife and if it’s actually still a thing in 2024. Read on and find out! 👇👇

Key takeaways about buying a wife in 2024

If you really want to buy a woman, then it’s illegal in the majority of countries. C’mon, we live in the 21st century!

  • But can you buy a wife? Yes. But not in its classical understanding. There are special websites called mail order bride sites (MOB sites), like SofiaDate, SakuraDate, and LatiDate, with foreign women interested in marriage. Members of these platforms are solely interested in serious and long-term relationships, so meeting a potential partner is not hard and takes less time. Also, you DON’T pay for a woman, just for the site’s services.
  • Brides or marriage agencies are another option available, but many scam sites are doing illegal activities under bride agency marks. And if you manage to find a legit agency, it can potentially find good matches, but be ready to spend $5,000+
  • You can also explore romance tours. But frankly, I won’t recommend them as they are expensive, especially if you go on a solo tour (around $5,000-$7,000), and you’ll be limited in your options for the candidates the romance tour agency picks.

So, if you were wondering, where can you buy a wife? That’s all the options, in a nutshell. All of them might work, but from my experience traveling and chatting with thousands of foreigners who dated internationally, specialized online dating sites are the most effective option.

Buying a wife: How it all started?

Obviously, buying a wife online was not always an option, and the concept itself dates back to the 17th century. So, let me tell you a story…

Everything started in the Jamestown Colony of Virginia, where it was on the edge of extinction because local men could not find wives. That was the first record of marriage advertisements in the form of mail that resulted in 150 English women coming to the US. Thus, the name mail order bride or wife.

Good ads, you know! Modern marketers should be proud😉

Also, you have probably heard about les filles du roi or King’s daughters of King Louis XIV, to be exact. He used his resources to give dowry to orphaned or poor women and send them to the colony of New France to the north to regulate the number of men who were getting a bit unruly. After that, over 800 girls crossed the Atlantic for marriage, and the tradition never stopped.

With the wide use of the Internet and the appearance of different dating sites, letters or ads for buying a bride abroad went online. The main benefit of this is not only the convenience of using a niche dating site but also the ability to form a deeper connection before you actually tie the knot.

As we look back at history, mail order brides and future husbands were basically strangers. In modern reality, the idea of marrying someone you don’t know seems wrong. But you know, they even made a show about it, 90 Day Fiancé, if I’m not mistaken 😜

From print ads and letters that traveled across the oceans to the dating profiles we have now, the mail order bride industry turned 180 to get into what it is right now — the most effective way to get a wife as a foreigner.

Can you buy a wife? Is it legal in 2024?

If you wonder how to buy a woman in terms of paying a sum of money and getting a girl shipped to your doorway, then it’s illegal. And it’s actually called human trafficking.

Women are not things!

The term buy a bride or wife means using a specialized mail order bride site where women are interested in serious relationships with foreigners and are ready for commitment. Most of them want to start a family and use such platforms, as it’s way easier and faster to find someone suitable. Also, most of these single women prefer to date foreigners and are willing to move abroad.

So, is it legal to buy a wife — human trafficking is illegal, and you can’t really buy a wife, but mail order brides are legal!

Where & how can you buy a wife?

Now that you know that you can’t order a wife over the mail, I think we are ready to explore all the options of where to buy a wife as a foreigner. Let’s dive in!

#1. Option: You can buy a wife online

The one that I have bragged about quite a lot of times is using mail order bride sites. What I like most about this way of cherchez la femme:

  • Accessibility
  • Safety
  • Effectiveness
  • Cost-effective (if compared to all others)

But it’s also important to note that the qualities that the site possesses depend on the particular platform you decide to use. This is why it is important to choose among the best mail order bride sites and not go for platforms with bad reviews.

If you don’t have a particular nationality that you are interested in, you can explore international mail order bride sites like TheLuckyDate. If you want to buy a wife online from the Eastern European region, go for SofiaDate. If Asian beauties are your type, consider SakuraDate. Opt for LatiDate if you have always wanted a Latin wife.

I can recommend those sites as, first, I personally tested all of them, and I’ve noticed that these platforms specifically work best for those regions compared to hundreds of other sites and apps I’ve tested. I can’t emphasize enough that going for the right niche and dating goals platform is key to the positive outcome of the online dating experience.

#2. Option: You can use a bridal agency

Another option that seems quite similar to mail order bride sites is bride agencies, also known as marriage agencies. Though both terms have a bride in them, they are not exactly the same.

Using a mail order bride site, you can check the services of the platform before actually using them, and you pay only for the particular service or have a monthly subscription, which, on average, is around $200-$400 per month.

But when you go to a marriage or bride agency, you pay before you actually get to talk to potential matches, as you are paying for the services of agency matchmakers. Therefore, you usually pay way more, and the average cost of such services can range from $3,000 to $5,000 monthly. The benefit is that professional bride agencies use compatibility matching, so all of the women offered will be based on your mutual compatibility.

Unfortunately, there are some more drawbacks that I just can’t hold on to:

  • There are many scam marriage agencies (scam profiles, paid translators, full scam sites, etc.)
  • Your options are limited to the brides who are signed up with that agency.
  • There are no guarantees that you will like someone else’s choice, as you have no option of communication before actually going on the romance tour.
  • You’ll be offered, on average, five to ten women, and there is a chance you won’t like anyone. However, you will still need to spend on travel accommodation and time in the foreign country, plus translation services and all of the other fees of the marriage agency.

I see how, in the past, marriage agencies were a thing because the internet and dating weren’t that widely adopted. But nowadays, I just don’t understand why you need to pay that much for what you can get on online dating sites. However, it is still an option that is out there.

#3. Option: Traveling to the country you prefer

Another option that I also like a lot is traveling. I’m TheTravellingFrenchMan, so I just can’t help myself but sneak an opportunity for adventure. You should understand that traveling for fun and searching for a girl who is open and ready for a serious relationship and marriage are not the same level of ease.

The first challenge starts with the choice of a country to travel to. I’d recommend you check out a few of my posts:

When you just travel abroad, there are a few things that you need to worry about, like the language barrier or ease of navigating the city you are in. But when you are on a love hunt, you need to know we are to meet single women in a particular country — not just any women but those who are more likely to be interested in committed relationships.

Another big issue might be if the girl you meet and like is open to moving abroad and starting her life from scratch. The myth that women who are open to international relationships are necessarily willing to liberate and start their lives from scratch is just that — a myth, a stereotype. It can become quite a dealbreaker.

Best countries where you can buy a wife

As mentioned, choosing the country you travel to or just the nationality you prefer is not easy, so I want to share my favorite places in the world where I believe you can find the best wives.

Top 3 mail order bride countries

I want to start with my personal top three of my order bride countries. I’ve tested different sites and apps, and ladies from these countries are the most common online. While traveling to each of those countries, I noticed that they all had high and positive outlooks on international relationships and foreign men.

  • Ukraine. This country is a gem of Eastern Europe, with thousands of single women, relatively cheap travel expenses, picturesque landscapes, and so many interesting things you can do in the country. But most importantly, Ukrainian women adore foreign men. Most think they make better husbands because they are more caring, loving, supportive, and less demanding.
  • Japan. This oriental country is worth exploring if you are into Asian beauties. Japan has been reserved for a long time, but nowadays, it’s living in the future, at least 10 years ahead of the rest of the world. And the standard of living in the country is really high so you won’t ever be worried that your foreign girl is with you for money. Though Japanese women have quite a romanticized vision of US guys, in my experience, they are quite into them because Japanese girls see American men as adventurous, confident, and ambitious, which is not common in Japanese society, which is the opposite of individualism.
  • Colombia. This Latin country is a great choice if you want your wife to have more traditional views on family and gender norms. Family-centric Colombian society makes local women cherish little joys of life and always put their family and relationships first. I have noticed that a lot of Western guys are into Colombian women, not only because of their sexy Latina curves but because their femininity is quite refreshing compared to typical Western girls who are mainly career-driven.

And that’s my personal top 3. Sure, there are many other countries where you can find amazing women who can potentially be your partners for life. Just have the courage to meet your love!

Top 3 countries where you can still purchase a wife

Believe it or not, there are still countries where you can purchase a wife. For real. I think that it’s fundamentally wrong, but that’s something you should be aware of when you are looking for a foreign partner.

  • India. Though India has had no dowry system since 1961, it is a common tradition. Those families with many daughters and not enough money to find husbands locally opt for foreign partners. And they can legally do so, as it’s not forbidden, though no law directly supports it. It’s like a gray area that makes such human trafficking possible.
  • Cambodia. In this country, many young girls are often forced to marry wealthy foreigners because the economic situation in the country is really not promising. Women hope to get employment, education, and decent pay but end up in forced marriages.
  • North Korea. The state control system marries women to the men chosen by the regime so that such unions can benefit the country. I can tell a lot about what’s wrong with North Korea, but I’m sure you already know a lot.

I’ve provided you with these top three countries so that you can avoid them. And I’m doing so not because it’s just inhumane but also because when you’re dealing with people who are selling women, you’re never safe.

Final thoughts

We live in a hopefully civilized world in traditional terms; that’s why it should be illegal to buy wives all over the world. The wife is not a thing you possess — no woman should be treated like that.

This is why, if you want to meet a partner for life from a foreign country, use mail order bride sites. They are effective and convenient and can save you from the trouble of getting into any illegal activities.

So, the final tip is don’t be afraid to cherchez la femme, but use the right way! 😉

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Philippe Berry
TheTravellingFrenchMan

I’m Philippe Berry, a dating coach for men and your companion for love adventures