Nick Crocker
Feb 22, 2018 · 1 min read

When you hear adults lovingly describing their Mum or Dad, they use one phrase over and over.

They spent a lot of time with me.

I was struck by Simon Black’s description of his late father in this interview, at 2:41:

There is something in the parent-child dynamic that goes beyond just needing quality time. Quantity matters too.

The difficulty in being a parent is that ‘a lot of time’ is the exact opposite of what you have.

Not a lot of time. And not a lot of energy.

It is a constant struggle to push back on the ocean of demands and create the space to be present and energetic with a child for ‘a lot of time’.

Among the many roles of a good parent, this is one of the most difficult.

I hope one day my son describes me in Simon Black’s words: A great friend, and a wonderful father, who gave me a lot of time.

Time matters. But to give it requires daily effort, and a constant mindfulness.

Nick Crocker

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General Partner @BlackbirdVC. Supporting Australian startups @Startmate. Sequencing the journey to build strength along the way.

Nick Crocker

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