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This is an email from Samhain Soul, a newsletter by Third-Eye-Gypsy.

Honoring Our Dearly Departed

Sharing a Sacred Space

Welcome to my second newsletter, Samhain Soul.

Samhain Soul is the center, the nucleus, and the written urgings meant to help people connect with themselves on a deeper, more intimate level.

Just like the essence of Samhain, humans must learn to greet the darkness in their lives, accepting all aspects of their most authentic nature.

It is only when we fully understand ourselves we can grow.

And part of life is death.

We all encounter death: friends, family, a spouse, and even a child. And while it hurts losing someone we love, whether to natural causes or a seemingly untimely experience, we must find a way to cope, embrace the situation and move on.

I understand the feeling all too well. This time of year is somewhat bittersweet for my family.

Yesterday, my son turned 23, but nine years ago, on his 14th birthday, our family attended his grandmother’s funeral. Naturally, this time of year meets with certain sadness for my children and me, but collectively we have worked on this, and today choose to focus on our dearly departed’s memory instead of shedding tears.

Today is Thanksgiving when families come together in love and laughter; like me, many will face the emotional rollercoaster of missing lost loved ones.

Coping is not always a smooth process; the holiday season heightens all emotions, happy and sad. I know that it isn’t always easy to keep a brave face or force a smile when the feeling isn’t there, but our dearly departed would not want us to remain stuck in grief. Although not physically present, one’s who have passed on remain with us in spirit.

They share our space.

Creating a Sacred Space.

In our homes, pictures of loved ones keep us company.

We all do this, and the photos we keep are not just of the living; we display pictures of our nearest and dearest who have passed on.

If you think about it, having an old photograph nearby feels a little like our lost one is right there with us. This is especially comforting when feeling down or lonely.

Whether you realize it or not, you are essentially creating a sacred space for the deceased, honoring their memory.

In many African and Buddhist traditions, an in-home shrine is a household fixture, a place for a family to honor their dead year round, not on one particular day.

This surpasses the grieving process and honors the transition from the physical being to the spiritual.

As spiritual beings first, our physical bodies are only temporary.

Death brings sadness for the ones left behind, but when we can get past the initial loss, we can celebrate our departed’s moving on. I know this may be a hard pill to swallow, and it has taken me time to grasp the concept, but death is not always dark and ugly, especially for the ill-inflicted and those suffering in pain, as in the case of my children’s grandmother.

For them, death is a release, an unburdening, a freeing moment; in these instances; they want us to let go without hesitation or regret.

They want us to let go, knowing they will forever be with us in spirit.

Personal Tips for creating a sacred space

Devoting a small area in an apartment or home to your dearly departed is an ideal way to feel connected after their passing.

As previously mentioned, most of us keep pictures in our homes, whether hung on walls or placed on stands, shelves, or small tables.

Pictures are a great first step in creating a sacred space.

By implementing a few more steps, one can easily transform a chosen part of any home, no matter how large or small, into an intimate setting connecting the living with the dead.

Items such as candles and incense are common on altars and places of worship. Lighting a candle can strengthen prayer and are a sign of spiritual life. It is said that white candles invite spiritual energy.

Other items to consider are plants, flowers, water, personal objects of the deceased, bells, figurines like angels, food offerings, crystals, stones, and other trinkets.

You may be familiar with the Day of the Dead, also known as Dia de Los Muertos, a Mexican tradition where in-home altars are traditionally built on October 30 and taken down on November 2nd.

The altar offerings or ofrendas represent remembrance and affection of the deceased.

Moreover, this cultural tradition is an important reminder that even in death, there is life; our deceased loved ones are eternally present.

Creating a sacred space honoring our dearly departed is not an unusual concept, and varying degrees of altars are cherished worldwide among various cultures.

My home has a small area dedicated to honoring loved ones who have passed on. Simple gestures, lighting incense and candles, playing soft music, and ringing bells help me stay connected to those who are no longer in my physical presence.

Peace of mind equals peace at heart, and I know that my dearly departed are forever by my side in spirit.

Thanks for reading, Marilyn

Next newsletter, I will announce my first writing competition for my pub Third Eye Gypsy.

Stay tuned… December 3



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Marilyn Glover

Top writer; Parenting, This Happened To Me. Passionate about poetry and spirituality. Dual citizen; domestic abuse survivor. Mail to