Na-Friendzone ka na ba?
The Chronicles of Martyr ‘Friends’ and the Death of Unreturned Desires.
Friendzone (fuh-rend-zown) — As Oxford puts it, it’s a situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in the other (damang-dama ko ‘tong part na ‘to). If I can add, I think it can also be when, someone you love loves you back but the two of you can’t just simply be together (damang-dama ko din ‘tong part na ‘to).
Since damang-dama ko parehas yung case, I’ve learned the hard way about engaging myself to people, rather men, whom I’ve thought were the one.
Feelings will never be enough for a relationship to work.
Know that God’s confirmation and affirmation is the ultimate validation. So na-friendzone ka ba or ni-friendzone mo ang sarili mo kasi you can’t be together? Push mo ‘yan!
Sabi nga ng isang magiting na pastor, si Bishop Manny Santiago, it’s better that two people be not together kaysa naman they’re together nga but everything around, even the two of you, are suffering and hurting. So wrong.
Jeremiah 29:11 says the Almighty Loving Father has plans for His beloved and He knows them. These are the plans to prosper and not to harm, plans to give hope and a future. Sometimes, well most often, we apply the verse when we’re feeling so bubbly inside, feeling very light or maybe, simply submissive kasi nothing’s opposing, internally and externally.
But then we struggle a lot believing God having a perfect plan at times our pride surfaces and we want something badly. We think we know what’s best for us, what’s best for our hearts. Pero baka magulat ka, at one time biglang mag-appear sa ceiling ng room mo or in one corner of your comfort room ang Lord and tell you what He told to Job gazillion years ago:
Then the Lord spoke to Job out of the storm. He said:
‘Who is this that obscures my plans with words without knowledge?
Brace yourself like a man; I will question you, and you shall answer me. (Lagot ka! Joke lang. Teehee!)‘Where were you when I laid the earth’s foundation?
Tell me, if you understand.
Who marked off its dimensions? Surely you know!
Who stretched a measuring line across it?
On what were its footings set, or who laid its cornerstone –
while the morning stars sang together and all the angels shouted for joy?‘Who shut up the sea behind doors when it burst forth from the womb,
when I made the clouds its garment and wrapped it in thick darkness,
when I fixed limits for it and set its doors and bars in place,
when I said, “This far you may come and no farther;
here is where your proud waves halt”?‘Have you ever given orders to the morning, or shown the dawn its place,
that it might take the earth by the edges and shake the wicked out of it?
The earth takes shape like clay under a seal; its features stand out like those of a garment.
The wicked are denied their light, and their upraised arm is broken.
Pwede mo pa basahin ng tuluy-tuloy ‘yan para masaya. ☺ Kidding aside, it is my hope and prayer that these Words in Job’s book will enlighten you about God’s sovereignty, that He is in control and has control of every fiber of your being and every single thing that happens in your life. All of them has a purpose, kahit pagligo mo sa umaga.
So do not fret if you still don’t have someone to have and hold na parang kanta ni Coco Lee. Baka bigyan ka nga ng tall, fair and super handsome, mala-Channing Tatum or Ryan Gosling, pwede na din si Coco Martin, tapos in the end heartbreak naman kasi maraming others, unfaithful pala. There are other possibilities why you still can’t have what you want to have.
Mababaliw ka if you try to figure everything yourself. In all these, man is man, and God is God. God without man is still God but man without God is nothing. Nothing! Nateng!
Be reminded that if nobody pursues you at this time, stop killing yourself with worry na baka mahuli ka, walang huli at mali sa timeline ni Lord. (This is a subject that is very good to talk about in length.) Sabi nga, don’t look at the negative, don’t look for what you do not have, instead look for what you already have. ‘Wag nang demanding, choosy ka pa, ikaw na nga nililigawan ng Hari ng mga hari. There’s Someone who’s looking at you preciously. Si Jesus, pursue ng pursue sa ‘yo, sobra-sobra. Baka hindi mo lang pinapansin.
He has loved you with an everlasting love (Jer. 31:3), and has loved you even before you knew Him. Bago ka pa maging small bump, bago ka pa maging dugo sa loob ng tummy ni Mommy mo, mahal na mahal ka na Niya, matagal nang nanliligaw sa ‘yo.
*I’ve written this entry on the 7th of January, 2014 on my old blog and recycled it here. Early this morning God reminded me that He is the ultimate pursuer of my heart and so it was of great comfort and assurance. He does know my longings. And so, what a great way to end the day with something equally encouraging. ☺Cheers to the Friendzoned Society!
