It’s hard to make anything work out from a position of “I need to”

“We need to stay together because of the kids.”

“I need to do this because my boss told me to.”

“We need to stay together because we’re married.”

“I need to see them because they’re my friends.”

“I need to get a degree so I can get a good job.”

Versus…

“We want to stay together because we want to stay together.”

“I want to do this because I want to see what I can achieve in life.”

“I want to see my friends because I like spending time with them.”

“I want to get a degree because I want to know more about how the world works.”

“Want to” is always a good place to be at.

“Need to” is never a good place to be at.

It’s hard to make anything work out from a position of “I need to”.

“Need to” eats away all the fun.

All the happiness.

All the things worth fighting for.

It takes away the hard work.

It takes away trying to work things out.

It takes away trying to figure things out.

When you need to do something, no matter what it is, you will always do just about enough to keep the boat afloat.

Why?

Well, because you need to.

And not because you want to.

But doing just about enough to keep the boat afloat is just not enough.

Never.

Just one unexpected wave and that boat will sink.

On the other hand when you do things because you want to do them you’ll always put in more work.

You’ll always try a lot harder to work things out.

You’ll always try a lot harder to figure things out.

“Need to” is never a good place to be at.

It’s a showstopper.

Whatever your show is.

So whatever you do, always try to keep the show running.

Try to get closer to “I want to”.

And get rid of all the “I need tos”.

One step a time.

Until maybe one day you might be able to only do things because you want to do them.

And not because you need to do them.

It’s that simple.

But no one said it’s going to be easy…

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Originally published at yanngirard.typepad.com.