Divorcing the effects of Adoption

All human beings are responsible for their thoughts, deeds, actions and behaviours, all of these are direct choices made by each person in the moment and will have direct Energetic Consequences.

Throughout life, we all are required to understand the difference between positive and negative forces. We can determine how our actions and beliefs affect others. Both positive and negative forces will contribute to the outcome of the lives they impact.

In my life as an adoptee, I’ve seen and experienced things that “normal” people just don’t have any perception of. It’s simply not in their realm of comprehension or macrocosm.

A visual representation of adoption separation and life long trauma
ADOPTION TRAUMA

Why?

Adoption, child protection, and out of home care policy & legislation are founded on assumption. Decisions should be made in the ‘best interests of the child’.

Therefore knowingly or unknowingly State, National, and International Laws continue to discriminate against Mothers of loss and in particular, adoptees, without actually listening to them or allowing them to assist in providing solutions through their lived experiences.

Character Assassination is a deliberate and sustained process that aims to destroy the credibility and reputation of a person, institution or social group.
ie: Adoptees.

People and organisations employ a mix of open and covert methods to achieve their goals, such as raising false accusations, planting and fostering rumours, and manipulating information. It may involve exaggeration, misleading half-truths, or manipulation of facts to present an untrue picture of the targeted person. It is a form of defamation and can be a form of ad hominem argument. Such acts are often difficult to reverse or rectify, and the process is likened to a literal assassination of human life. In practice, character assassination may involve Doublespeak, spreading of rumours through Malicious Gossip, innuendo or deliberate misinformation on topics relating to the subject’s morals, integrity, and reputation. It may involve spinning information that is technically true, but that is presented in a misleading manner or is presented without the necessary context.

For individuals targeted by character assassination attempts, this may result in being rejected by their community or family.

This may be seen in the adoption world as an adoptive mother telling her adopted child that their birth mother is a drug addict in hopes that the adoptee will not search for her and foster resent and hatred towards her. Then later the adoptee finds out that this is completely untrue after reunion with their mother.

or the coercion of the birth mother to give up their baby through tactics used in the forced adoption or baby scoop era.

Throughout this article, I will reference various esoteric modalities as they reveal the social and governmental assault of deprivation instigated towards adoptees and mothers of loss since adoption began.

Human Rights

Human rights are moral principles that describe certain standards of human behaviour and are regularly protected as legal rights in municipal and international law. They are commonly understood as inalienable fundamental rights “to which a person is inherently entitled simply because she or he is a human being,” and which are “inherent in all human beings” regardless of their nation, location, language, religion, ethnic origin or any other status. They are applicable everywhere and at every time in the sense of being universal, and they are egalitarian in the sense of being the same for everyone. They require empathy and the rule of law and impose an obligation on persons to respect the human rights of others.

They should not be taken away, stolen, forcibly or coercively removed in any way shape or form regardless of other peoples personal beliefs. Especially in instances of close relationships.

Coercion

Increasing stress and confusion in the targeted mother-son bond is done on purpose to break them down so they go into self-doubt and become uncertain and confused about what is actually happening.

Social Engineering is a type of Mind Control that seeks to manipulate people from their own right to privacy, into becoming knowledgeable and self-informed, so that the social structure can exploit them with misinformation that is used to take control of their behaviours. The primary method is applied via bullying, intimidation and deception tactics through controlling perception and by generating personal or mass fears, real or imagined in their targets.

Thus, the intended goal of Social Engineering is to exploit the subconscious and to shift emotional dependence onto those who have accumulated the most wealth and power. This makes them the dominant authorities with full control over allocating all resources available in this world while creating many different subclasses of marginalised and oppressed people. Those that are poverty-stricken and feel socially excluded are especially vulnerable to emotional exploitation, keeping them polarised on insignificant topics, and feeding into the promotion of lies due to the intentional Cultivation of Gullibility.

Collectivism is a cultural value that is characterised by an emphasis on cohesiveness among individuals and prioritisation of the group over self. Individuals or groups that subscribe to a collectivist worldview tend to find common values and goals as demonstrating greater orientation toward in-group than toward out-group. The term “in-group” is thought to be more diffusely defined for collectivistic individuals to include societal units ranging from the nuclear family to a religious or racial/ethnic group. Collectivism is often defined in contrast to individualism.

Coercion comes in all shapes and sizes and was not only prevalent in the removal of babies from mothers in the forced adoption era, but it’s just as ubiquitous in post adoption relationships in the form of narcissistic expectations.

Civil Rights Crimes in Adoption

There must be public education about the long-term effects of the loss of a baby to adoption. This should be focused upon the tens of thousands of those suffering without protest.

There needs to be a public acknowledgement and accountability of major and common effects of past adoption practices, specifically addressing the power and coercion applied and the helplessness of those who lost their baby.

International Institutional Adoption fraud

International institutional adoption fraud was rife throughout the baby scoop era in most countries. There must be public education about the long-term effects of adoption trauma in general and the loss of a baby to adoption. This should be focused upon those suffering without protest.

There needs to be a public acknowledgement and accountability of major and common effects of current and past adoption practices, specifically addressing the power and coercion applied and the helplessness of those who lost their babies. As well as public acknowledgement and accountability for the destruction of the identities of adoptees by deeming their first identity null and void then replacing them with an institutionally forged document which states the adoptive parents gave birth to them.

No access to medical history — short term and longterm implications.
Early intervention or treatment in some instances may be the difference between life and death.

The voices of adult adoptees who experienced secrecy, stigma and shame around their adoptions are deserving of understanding and compassion. Adoptees also deserve their basic human rights to be heard and sadly we aren’t there yet & we aren’t even close.

Taking responsibility for our life situation and removing blame, correctly aligns us to the Law of Cause and Effect, in so that the Law will be able to work more quickly and positively to heal us. This can be very difficult to accept when we are unable to understand the direct causality related to child abuse, and the trauma inflicted during childhood, that emotionally and spiritually stunts that person into adulthood.

Why are identides changed and kept secret from adoptees?
What possible legal reasons should prevent an adopted adult from discharging an adoption?

The answers are: Secrecy & None.

If adopted people actually do have the same rights as everyone else in this society these atrocities would never happen.

Informed Consent

Informed consent can be said to be given when a person has been educated to understand the facts and considers the implication and possible consequences of an action, which will impact them. Therefore the term informed consent is an ethical and legal principle in which a person exercises their right to gather more data for analysis and perform their own due diligence, to better understand the facts and consequences of making a choice that impacts them.

However, a person may verbally agree to something from fear, perceived social pressure, or psychological difficulty in expressing true feelings. A person may claim to understand the implications of some action, but in fact, has failed to understand the possible consequences fully. A legally defined valid informed consent has three components; disclosure of the information in a truthful way to make an autonomous decision, the mental capacity to comprehend the information and form reasonable judgments on the consequences, and the voluntary action to exercise decisions without external pressures such as coercion, manipulation and deception. These three core principles of informed consent are important to understand as they correlate to the tipping point that must be reached for the human Collective Consciousness to be awakened into the thresholds of accepting the higher frequency reality.

Given the importance of Informed Consent for the protection of Human Rights and as an ethical doctrine, it is applicable to Universal Laws in the petition of demanding factual truths of accurate events to be revealed to the human population in the event of full disclosure.

At this point, the lack of informed consent as the result of non-disclosure of true and accurate events on this planet establishes gross negligent abuse, which can directly lead to multiple species genetic annihilation as well as other devastating consequences.

Three Core Principles of Informed Consent

These three core principles of informed consent are important to understand as they correlate to the tipping point that must be reached for the human Collective Consciousness to be awakened into the thresholds of accepting the higher frequency reality.

However, legally defined valid informed consent has three components;

  • a. disclosure of the information in a truthful way to make an autonomous decision,
  • b. the mental capacity to comprehend the information and form reasonable judgments on the consequences,
  • c. and the voluntary action to exercise decisions without external pressures such as coercion, manipulation and deception.

Informed consent is directly related to preserving a human beings right to self-ownership, autonomy and the prevention of abusive conduct.

Misogyny

Misogyny is the hatred or dislike of women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including sexual discrimination, denigration of women, violence against women, sexual objectification of women and even reveal itself in toxic femininity which sources from an assortment of socially groomed mind control behaviours. Women, as well as men, can embody misogynistic behaviours which enforce subconscious compliance to self-imposed misogynistic attitudes such as toxic femininity that appears in such anti-female archetypal forces as the Princess Code, Dark Mother and Lunar Woman.

This can be seen in relationships where children learn to undervalue women. In adoption it is specifically seen in the the relationship beween the adoptive mother and her views taught to the adoptee of the birthmother. Usually this is comes in the form of toxic manipulation to hold power over the adoptee.

Patriarchal Domination.

Patriarchal Domination is enforced in a variety of ways, generally, it is through abuses of alpha male power using brute force or Victim-Victimizer programming to control women through methods of fear and intimidation as well as those that are ranked lower on the social or religious classification system. This is a learned behaviour that is promoted in a variety of ways in social conditioning or is mimicked from boys watching their Father’s or male authority figures that abuse women or girls and have no remorse for committing abuses or hurting others.

If one is obedient to someone this means that one is submissive to that person. The patriarchal dominance in institutions such as churches and hospitals implies that women are subject to the authority of men & woman in all aspects. If the church’s moral teachings are perceved to be unbalanced, then it is easier for these institutions to dominate women. Their identity becomes invisible and they lack self-direction, self-affirmation and self-reliance.

Perpetuting a reality, where the birthmother does not have the ability to make a real, authentic choice to keep her baby.

Suffering

The word suffering is sometimes used in the narrow sense of physical pain, but more often it refers to mental pain, or more often yet it refers to pain in the broad sense, i.e. to any unpleasant feeling, emotion or sensation.

Suffering may come in all degrees of intensity, from mild to intolerable. Factors of duration and frequency of occurrence usually compound that of intensity. Attitudes toward suffering may vary widely, in the sufferer or other people, according to how much it is regarded as avoidable or unavoidable, useful or useless, deserved or undeserved.

Suffering occurs in the lives of adoptees and biological mothers in numerous manners, often dramatically. Aspects may include the nature of suffering, its processes, its origin and causes, it's meaning and significance, its related personal, social, and cultural behaviours, its remedies, management, and uses.

The engrained memories do not faded or stop haunting adoptees or birth mothers. The effects on personal development lingers, proving that their torment pain, anguish and suffering is, triggered by a simple word or look and is constant throughout life.

For someone already suffering from low self esteem the impact of this experience is felt at far more devastating levels.

Neuro and Limbic system failures

Scientific studies suggest children affected by adoption frequently suffer from a variety of behavioural, emotional, and neuropsychological sequelae, including deficits in attention, executive functions, disorders of attachment and in some cases a syndrome that mimics autism.

The early relationship between babies and their mother has extreme implications for their social interaction later in life, the amygdala stores pre-cognitive negative experiences. When our neural nervous networks are damaged, assaulted by separation trauma flashback occur throughout the child’s entire life well into adulthood.

Children who have been adopted & suffered trauma and do not retain or are unable to access explicit memories of their experiences; however, they may retain implicit memories of the physical or emotional sensations, and these implicit memories may produce flashbacks, nightmares, or other uncontrollable reactions.

Chronic stress or repeated trauma can result in a number of biological reactions, including a persistent state of fear.

When children are exposed to chronic, traumatic stress, their brains sensitize the pathways for the fear response and create memories that automatically trigger that response without conscious thought.

While these children are often labelled as learning disabled, the reality is that their brains have developed so that they are constantly on alert and are unable to achieve the relative calm necessary for ongoing learning or simple basic function thoughout later life!

So after decades of scientific exploration, how can adoption still be thought of as a viable solution if it is proven that it causes permanent damage to emotional, physical and mental health?

Orphan Complex

Orphan Complex is a common issue that many adoptees experience when they do not realise or experience their true origins. Most have no memory and discourage from discovering their connection to their true biology, history and identity.

As a result, many suffer from blockages in ancestral clearing and healing. When adoptees and adoptive families consciously participate in this process, adoptees can make considerable progress in healing not only to ourselves but to their both their adoptive and family of origin.

Children have a lot to contend with and need spiritually mature parents, teachers and counselors to help guide them through the incredible maze of confusion and interference that they are exposed to in adoption.

Parents have to be discerning to not abuse parental power by being overly protective, or conrolling, yet they must take steps to educate their children to gain an empowered stance in life by acknowledging the adoptess history, biology and identity.

People who engage in purposefully breaking and splitting the childs auric fields by limiting their connection to the truth also consciously or unconsciously set the child up to grow into an adult subject to more abusive and karmic superimposition throughout their lifetime.

It can be very difficult to accept and understand the direct causality related to adoption, and the trauma inflicted during this time, that emotionally and spiritually stunts adoptees into adulthood.

All adoptees experience trauma which shuts down their heart and oppresses their emotional and spiritual growth. As challenging as it may be, to progress beyond this pain, it is imperative that adoptees take action in order to free themselves from the bondage of continuing to carry that pain.

To begin to free themselves, adoptees must open their heart and be vulnerable enough to be willing to look at their hurt feelings and process emotions.

To free the body, mind, emotions and spirit from the bondage of trauma induced by parents or others when we were children, we must take responsibility to learn how to love ourselves and unconditionally forgive what has happened to us. This action dissolves the consequential effects and entanglements that this pain has had throughout the child’s timeline all the way into adulthood.

Unhealed childhood trauma and pain is commonly carried over into our intimate relationships infecting them with pain if we are not made aware of these effects. When we are able to unconditionally forgive the situation and love ourselves, we learn that what happened to us as a child, had nothing to do with our real self. We must shift the concept of Parent that exists on the external, to become the Parent that exists in the internal, and know that we are the true spiritual parent for ourselves.

False Parent

The False Parent is the main Archetype that is used to create pain and trauma in the child when that child is totally dependent upon that adult person. When abuse is suffered in childhood, destructive attachments and negative bonds are formed within that child that we carry into adulthood, if they are not cleared.

If the desire to belong to a family, in order to feel connected, is not satisfied emotionally. Disfunctional patterns continue, and the adoptee will feel disconnected, love-less, have unsuccessful relationships, and will seek defense or coping mechanisms to fill the inner void.

When parental dysfunction, love and emotional needs are ingrained to be abusive, painful or selfish, that “belief system” carries throughout the adoptees life experience. Without correction of this dysfunction, the digression of the pattern continues to define “love” with all interpersonal relationships of the child, leading into adulthood.

Self-Determination

The ability to have free choice of one’s own acts or states without external force or coercion. Self-Determination is the process by which a person may have the freedom to control their own life, body, mind and spirit.

The right of peoples self-determination is a cardinal principle in modern international law, binding, as such, on the United Nations as an authoritative interpretation of the Charter’s norms. It states that peoples, based on respect for the principle of equal rights and fair equality of opportunity, have the right to freely choose their sovereignty and international political status with no interference.

So far to date, no amount of legislative change has done anything to address the trauma and associated fallout linked to adoption. Certain minorities have been given open slather to abuse and ignore the rights of children under the guise of an obviously corrupt sense of social morality.

The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child specifically states in article 8: Preservation of identity. The State has an obligation to protect and, if necessary, re-establish basic aspects of the child’s identity. This includes name, nationality and family ties.

If this is true, then why are adoptees continually blocked, dismissed when persuing adoption discharges? This is a blatant breach of the Act.

Adoptees will not stop the quest to bring to light the injustices that adoption imposes on them. It seems society, governments and institutions are repeatedly condeming us to live a life of lies.

Individualism

Individualism is the knowledge that the individual’s life belongs fully to him or her. That he or she has an incontrovertible right to live their life as they see fit, to act upon their own judgment, to keep and use the product of their own effort, and to pursue a value system of their own choosing. This comprises the idea that the individual is sovereign, an end in himself, and the fundamental basis of deciding the personal values of ethical and moral concern.

The concept of individualism includes the philosophy or societal perspective that emphasises the moral worth of every individual, that all human beings deserve to be treated with compassion, dignity and respect. Individualism treats individuals as individuals, giving equal value for the right of each individual to pursue freedom of expression and self-realisation, which are critical components for all people to experience personal happiness and spiritual fulfilment.

To deny someone’s truth is to impose your reality onto them. Therefore I see this as not being the problem of the adoptee but the problem of the family member to firstly not understand the full gamut of the situation.

Individualism and Gnosis

All individuals have outer organs of perception, as well as inner higher sensory abilities that make it possible to perceive and feel the environment, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, and while in this process of integrating life’s experiences, are continually gaining deeper knowledge about the self and the nature of reality. Individuals gain knowledge through a range of life experiences and by consciously participating with the spiritual development path through these direct experiences is called Gnosis. Gnosis is the practical, fact-based knowledge of consciousness that guides us to fulfil our highest potential and directly experience our spiritual connection with Life. It allows us to be a knower of purpose and to feel the source of our innate happiness that is connected to our heart and soul.

The concept of Individualism, as in every person’s life is their own, is critical to comprehend in cultivating the self-knowledge and self-awareness that is gained through Gnosis.

Gnosis

Gnosis is simply the spiritual development path of direct experience in which one gains knowledge of the self.

Gnosis is the common Greek noun for knowledge. Gnosis is used throughout Greek philosophy as a technical term for experience knowledge in contrast to theoretical knowledge or epistemology. It generally signifies a dualistic knowledge in the sense of mystical enlightenment or spiritual insight.

As a resultof adoption many of us have various stages of our ancestral clearing and healing processes that are required to be undertaken. When we consciously participate and inquire on this process, we can make miraculous healing available not only to ourselves but to our extended family of origin and throughout our bloodline history.

I know this may sound quite absurd, nevertheless, you have to push through, one foot after the other! Simply by experiencing adoption “YOU” have the inherent strength to face the trauma. Drop what doesn’t serve you. Pay no attention to the people denying your truth, they are in denial to themselves as to what adoption really is!

Look inward to the light and you will find… Yourself.

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The sole purpose of this publication is to lift standards of ethics by promoting truth and denouncing the conservancy of an inhumane ideologies.

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The sole purpose of Thoughtless Delineation is to lift standards of ethics & morality by promoting truth and denouncing the Conservancy of inhumane ideologies.

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The sole purpose of this publication is to lift standards of ethics by promoting truth and denouncing the conservancy of an inhumane ideologies.

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