Accepting “Fine”
08.06.18
Hi Friend,
It can be hard to let go of the things we’ve once held dear. Be they preconceptions, tradition, or understandings of ourselves. Moving on and changing requires more than just a new template (which is the domain of so many self help books). It also requires acceptance that we need to change and a willingness to enter a period of uncertainty, trusting the new process until we can decide to accept or reject its premise. All these articles this week in some way deal with that space of “fine.” It’s certainly not a place of comfort, but something that’s useful to think about on our journey to understanding ourselves better.
So, here we go.
1. FOBO
This article introduced me to the idea of Fear of Best Option (FOBO). As someone who researches almost every decision and agonizes if it is the best one, it really hit home. The solution: MFD: the Mostly Fine Decision. I haven’t adopted it totally yet, but the idea is intriguing enough to give it a shot.
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2. Attached
So, I just read (listened on audio book, really — can we consider that reading?) the book Attached. It examines and breaks down different attachment styles: Avoidant, Secure, and Anxious. I’ll let you guess which one I fall into. Hint: it’s not Secure. Anyway, if you’ve wondered why some relationships are a challenge for you, or why you struggle with your partner, it’s worth a skim, and maybe take the quiz. It was enlightening in the ways we use different tactics to push others away and the need for honest, open, communication about our needs.
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3. Redesigning the Funeral Home
The death of a loved one is challenging in so many ways, being disappointed with a space that was designed for grieving in the early 1900s shouldn’t be one. A few architects set out to change that, rethinking everything about the funeral home from the display of memories to the reception. The result is spectacular and makes you really think about how we may need our spaces to evolve to suit new traditions and cultural needs.
