2018: My Redefining Year
The lessons that shaped and transformed my life this year.
Well, in just a few weeks we will be ending 2018. It seems like just yesterday we were celebrating and welcoming in 2018. Honestly, I hope it has been an amazing year for you. I hope that you can look back on great moments, incredible growth and amazing progress in your life. As you know, this is always the time of the year that I pause to reflect. I’ve made it a habit to evaluate every year of my life. It helps me to grow, improve and become the best version of myself. Now I hope you enjoy some of my biggest lessons of 2018!
- You have to know when to let go. I started 2018 seeking a lot of clarity concerning my life and my business. I knew that some things had to change. However, I was really wrestling with that decision until I had a conversation with one of my mentors. After that conversation, I knew exactly what I needed to do. Sometimes in life, you have to make hard choices. 2018 brought some really hard choices for me. I had to walk away from some things that I really loved. However, I discovered that you cannot truly live your greatest life until you have learned how to completely let go. Often the very thing we are holding on to is the thing that is keeping us from living a higher life. I am thankful that I let go because so much good has come into my life because of that decision.
- You have to be willing to take the journey alone. As I was wrestling internally with this decision, I felt a myriad of different emotions. Honestly, I felt like I was on a roller coaster. You give so much of yourself to your goals and your dreams. When things start to fall apart right in front of you, it can weigh on you emotionally. If we are not careful we can be there for everyone else and totally neglect ourselves. My best friend reminded me of this as I found myself in a season of uncomfortable growing pains in my life. 2018 taught me that I must dare to take this journey alone. People will stop and admire your path but nobody can travel your path but you. We pierce our souls with great sorrow when we look to those without the capacity for comfort and strength. I realized that it was my journey and my road to travel. While the journey was long and lonely, I am so glad that I chose this path. I am grateful for the adversity and the hardship. The growing pains have unlocked my greatest potential.
- You must be willing to transition to embrace a brand new life. While 2018 has been an uncomfortable year, it has mainly been a year of transition in my life. I believe that transition is part of the human experience. We are always transitioning from one season to another, one relationship to another, one opportunity to another or from one lesson to another. A life without transition is a life that is stuck. When we become stuck it is proof that we have not made the commitment to embrace life at the next dimension. I learned this year that transition is the difference between a life of misery and meaning. More importantly, transition is the difference between existing and excellence. The reality is that you cannot benefit the world without living beyond your limits. 2018 is the year that I had to be willing to defy the odds, live beyond my limits and embrace a world of new possibilities. Ultimately, we do not get what we hope for. Our lives are a reflection of what we have the courage to reach for. Familiarity is the greatest enemy of your future. Essentially, familiarity is the lie that we believe that our life can be no better than it presently is. Thankfully, I moved beyond the lie and realized that the greatness of my life is the product of the growth of my mind. What I can conceive I have the power to create.
- You must awaken the dreamer in you. I have devoted my life to empowering people to fulfill purpose and maximize their greatest potential. I have written numerous books, appeared on television, been featured in magazines and won all kinds of awards. I know how to motivate people to live their dreams. However, 2018 was a year that I hit a really low point in my life. I told my best friend that I felt depleted. I had given so much to my generation and helped so many people. Unfortunately, I felt empty and the dreamer in me was starting to die. I could tell my best friend was concerned but I told him not to worry. He told me to take a break and get back to the things that brought me joy. While I strongly resisted this in the beginning, I finally heeded his advice. I took some time for myself and stepped away from the empowerment space. I realized that I was in a dangerous place and I was losing myself. The joy of life and the journey had been lost. I made a commitment to myself at that moment to awaken the dreamer in me again. That commitment included getting back to what was important to me, no longer allowing people to celebrate the gift at the expense of my peace, and reminding myself to live life on my own terms. While 2018 has been a very different year for me, it has also been the greatest year of my life. I have grown more as a person than any other time in my life. I have prospered and thrived in ways I never imagined possible. Most of all, I have found my voice again and I am living life in the key of joy and authenticity. 2018 is the year that I reconnected with my true purpose and power.