3 Tips to Have Money as Your Lover
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If money were your lover, what kind of lover would you be? Do you enjoy money? Do you play with money? Do you allow it to contribute to you? Or, do you fight with money? Ignore it? Avoid it? Despise it? Yell it and blame it for what’s not working?
Whatever your current relationship with money may be, would you be interested in a fun, playful, joyful and exciting one? What if money could be your best friend and a generous lover? Would you be willing to be curious, questioning, playful, and to receive the random, unexpected and unpredictable that could make you way more money than you ever imagined?
Here are 3 tips on how to change your relationship with money:
- Commit to your life
Commitment to your life doesn’t mean putting yourself in a straightjacket, or being set on one particular path forever. It means never giving up, never giving in and never quitting. Are you willing to commit to you? Are you willing to never give up on you?
Committing to you is about being willing to have an adventure of living, to keep choosing what works for you, even if it is uncomfortable, and even if that means making changes and choices that no one else (even your partner, your family or friends) understands.
Committing to you can take you beyond your comfort zone, especially as most of us are well trained in giving up what we would truly like to choose in order to t in with everyone else. You have to be willing to be as different as you actually are, no matter what anyone else thinks, says or does.
2. Demand of yourself that you will be and do whatever it takes
Making the demand of yourself is realising that no matter what, you will have what you desire in your life.
You start creating your life when you finally demand, “No matter what it takes and no matter what it looks like, I’m going to create my life. I am not going to live by anybody else’s point of view or reality. I am going to create my own.”
This is the adventure of living. Are you willing to have the adventure of living? Are you willing for that adventure to include having money? As my friend and the found of Access Consciousness®, Gary Douglas says, “What if the purpose of life was to have fun?”
3. Be willing to choose, lose, create and change anything
Einstein’s definition of insanity was doing the same thing and expecting a different result. If you would like to change your financial reality, you have to change where you are currently functioning from.
What have you created as unchangeable? What, for you, is set in stone? What do you see as valuable, permanent, and lasting? Owning a home? Having a long marriage? Owning your own business? Staying in a job? Being in debt?
What have you decided you do not have the ability to change? Do you feel choiceless about your financial situation, your lack of money, your debt, or your financial prospects? Have you made a commitment to maintaining the financial structures that you’ve created in your own universe, rather than doing something completely different? Do you keep trying to change but nothing seems to work? What are you not doing that if you did do it different, would change it all? Ask, “What can I do or be different today to change all of this right away?”
What if you were willing to start a new relationship with money today? A relationship based on the adventure of life and living? You can. Changing your relationship with money, creating a new financial reality, starts with you. Commit to your life. Make the demand, no matter what it takes, no matter what it looks like, this is changing.
You don’t have to be the same as everyone else. You don’t have to do things the same as everybody else. What YOU know is far greater than all of that. Be willing to know what you know. Be willing to choose to create what you would like to create in the world; what you would like to create as your life. What if the purpose of life IS to have fun? Are YOU having any?
Simone is the author of the internationally acclaimed book ‘Joy of Business’ (currently available in 11 languages) and her brand new book, ‘Getting Out of Debt — Joyfully’.