3 Ways to Maintain Boundaries
I can’t help but notice.
As my children are getting older, they both have started to push against my boundaries to see what would happen.
From staying up past their bedtimes to talking back, the lines that were previously understood as the norm are being tested.
Although frustrating at times, they are helping me sharpen those skills for maintaining boundaries in other areas of my life.
1. Be Mindful:
Paying attention to your present struggles by identifying how they are preventing you from progressing is often where we stop. However, going the extra step by recalling past moments of sadness that never had words to complement the impact of them could have a long-lasting positive result.
Pausing to think about the framework of my opinion has helped me a lot. Although some experiences were important to me when I was growing up; they may not be as important now. Issues are different and children are being raised in an environment that they are more equipped for than their parents.
2. Focus on Self-Care:
Understanding that being busy does not always mean I’m successful was a huge challenge to overcome. If I am burning out in the process; I failed myself.
Being exhausted from constantly balancing our time between school, practices, games, and recitals does not excuse me from being their source of what our boundaries are when situations arise.
When they violate them, my goal is always to focus on reinforcing the importance as opposed to their negative reaction.
3. Practice Gratitude:
Changing your lifestyle can be extremely straining on existing relationships because you are reintroducing them to the new you which they may or may not understand.
Being grateful for the relationships that are able to stand up to change helps when dealing with longer periods of negativity due to a boundary reinforced.
Setting boundaries with people can actually help to improve your relationships in the long run. If you do not respect your personal boundaries (perhaps in fear of someone else’s reaction), it is likely to lead to bitterness and resentment over time. The people you want to surround yourself with are those who will respect your boundaries, even if they initially feel upset or disappointed.
Are you making sure others respect your boundaries? Now is the perfect time to start reinforcing this to those who have gone astray.
Originally published at www.citybornsouthernliving.com on September 26, 2017.