Bust this common & complicating block to grow your business
Do you know, or wonder if, you have a fear of success that’s holding you back from growing your business to the level you desire?
Or maybe you feel like you’re doing everything right and you’re showing up, but you’re not seeing the results you want, and you wonder what else is going on?
Many entrepreneurs can relate to a fear of failure, because it’s one we can easily identify.
But I don’t talk as often about the fear of success, though it’s quickly becoming an epidemic among high-achievers. In fact, here’s how I’ve heard the fear of success described in coaching calls JUST THIS WEEK:
- I’m afraid that if I grow my business I’ll be too busy and won’t have time for my friends or family.
- I’m afraid I won’t be able to do it all or I won’t be able to manage if my business really takes off.
- I’m afraid that if I put it out there I may not attract the right people… or what if I DO? Then what?
- I’m afraid I won’t have enough time to devote to my full-time job.
- I’m afraid I won’t be able to help clients when they come to me.
- I’m afraid I’ll have some confrontation or conflict.
- I’m afraid I’ll lose relationships from the people who don’t really understand what it’s like to run your own business.
Can you relate to any of these? These are all sneaky ways we keep ourselves stuck.
Remember, fear is always about keeping us SAFE. The part of our brain that creates fear is really good at coming up with ways to make even a good thing — something like success — sound scary and not worth doing.
Even if safe means working a crappy job that we hate.
Even if safe means being miserable.
Even if safe is STUCK.
Because to the fear mechanism in our brain, safe = same.
If you have a fear of success, you’re normal. The fear of success is very real and it’s something I’ve experienced, too.
I have caught myself along my journey, thinking, “I’m afraid if my business gets bigger, I’m going to be too busy. Too busy to be present with my family, with my horses, with the people and things I love.
If you feel this way, you are not alone.
Despite struggling with this fear of success, I have still built a 6-figure business with 5-figure months. Because I’ve recognized it, dealt with it, and moved forward anyway.
Here are 3 tips to help you move through the fear of success, too:
1. Acknowledge What’s Going On
First of all, I noticed and acknowledged that the fear of success that was holding me back.
Instead of beating myself up about it any longer, saying, “I shouldn’t have this fear. Something is wrong with me,” I noticed it and released it.
Instead of continuing to ask yourself all of these negative “what ifs,” like constantly questioning whether your business is going to succeed, you could be saying, “I am willing to show up in the face of fear of success, and trust that I have this dream for a reason. I’ve figured things out before, and this is figureoutable, too.”
Instead of going into a downward spiral, you can admit, “I have the fear of success, but I’m not alone. Christine has it. Her clients have it. I’m calling this fear out and I’m going to start telling a different story and stop letting it block me, TODAY.”
2. Make a Clear Plan
The second thing I did, and I want you to do, is realize that fear is likely the thing that’s UNDERNEATH the lack of a clear plan, the lack of strategy that you’ve been struggling with.
Honestly, when you are overcoming a fear of success, promising yourself that you’ll do it better tomorrow is probably not going to work. Everything you’ve been doing so far, working on your own, is not going to just automatically change tomorrow.
Strategy, smart strategy, starts FIRST with underlying self-belief — not the other way around.
That’s why I work with my clients on self-belief AND simple strategy. No, it’s not the glitzy, magical, catchy-but-also totally-untrue “make money overnight while you sleep” promise. But it’s REAL, and it’s sustainable, and it turns you into the person you want to be along the way.
3. Reach Out For Help
Instead of continuing to beat yourself up over, “I should know how to beat this, already, on my own and for free,” reach out for some help.
Make a way to start supporting yourself through this fear of success. The fear of success has the potential to continue to control you as long as you allow it to. It’s not going to get you where you want to be. It requires one step BEYOND talking about it. That step is reaching out and getting support.
Here’s what one of my own amazing clients shared with her tribe about moving through her fear of success:
“I have a coach who has gone through all these emotions and feelings. She gets it! I feel supported and she has helped me realize that my holding back is not of service to anyone, more so my tribe, my community, my family and society in general. She brought to light the consequences of me holding myself back from success are far more profound and painful.”
It’s your turn now.
You read about how the fear of success shows up for me and for my clients, and now, I want to hear what fear of success looks like for you, so reply and let me know in the comments. Bonus — by doing this, you’re completing the first step and acknowledging it!
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Christine McAlister is a business + success coach for high-achieving, motivated women. Her company, Life With Passion, helps them rediscover their unique gifts and create freedom-based businesses.