4 Reasons to Forgive Yourself

Forgiving ourselves first.

Bridgette Petrino
Jun 20, 2017 · 2 min read

We all know how important it is to forgive others in order to move on from the past.

Forgiveness is a challenge. It can take years, or sometimes even a lifetime or longer to forgive. But, many of us find it more difficult to forgive ourselves than to forgive others.

Unforgiveness creates anger, resentment, stress, sleep issues, and even physical problems. What someone did to us may become so engrained in our thoughts, that we actually end up repeating that same offense ourselves.

Forgiveness gives us the power to move out of the past and into the present and gives us control over our lives.

“He who controls the past controls the future. He who controls the present controls the past.” ~George Orwell

4 Reasons to Forgive Yourself

1. Release

When we release ourselves and no longer feel like we are going to be punished spontaneously and brutally, we release that throbbing worry and live a life of freedom.

2. You deserve it.

We will all have to forgive ourselves at some point for making a mistake, doing something wrong, being human, and simply screwing up.

3. Healing.

We can forgive others once we forgive ourselves, and that results in healing and peace.

4. Growth.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.” Ghandi

We don’t always need to be strong, but we always need to be growing. Growth and development should never stop. And, I think that’s what Ghandi meant in this quote. By constantly growing, we can achieve our goals and create a life that we love.

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