A Generous Love

Recently, I was privileged to do a counseling session with a beautiful older couple. They came in because they wanted to hone their ability to love one another well, to expand their capacity to be present with each other, and look closely at what is both working and not working in their relationship.

In short, they are wanting to do what it takes to enjoy their time together more fully.

They are both in their seventies and have been together for the past three years. After thirty years of living on their own once their respective marriages had ended, they now plan to move in together. They are making big changes including retirement and co-habitation which will be an epic shift.

The way they love one another is nothing short of inspiring. I was moved by the field of kindness that blossomed in the room as they took turns speaking and listening, and how a stream of belly laughter flowed throughout the ninety minutes we shared.

Planted across from them in my big green suede chair, I noted the proximity of their bodies and the gentle way his hand rested steadily on her knee as she tenderly shared about the things she felt challenged by in their relationship. She gracefully persevered, her strong voice quivered as she spoke. It was a palpably vulnerable moment as I watched the layers peel away from her heart, each moment becoming more real than the last.

I was struck by the depth of their commitment and how they will most assuredly walk side by side to the end of the road, co-stars in their final act.

I paused to let the poignant depth of their partnership sink in. The potency of their love was not lost on me and I inhaled the nourishment of its sweetness.

Holding the space as this jovial, distinguished man gazed at his beloved with adoration, tears welling up in his eyes. After a moment he looked at her soberly proclaimed, “I’m here. I’m not going anywhere.”

She received him, their lips met, and they kissed softly. There was a resounding finality to his words; it was the sound of enduring love — the kind of love that encompasses generosity, acceptance, and a willingness to evolve.

This incredible couple transmitted the essence of what it is to love without conditions, to be willing to take responsibility, to say the hard things that must be said, to listen without defending, to breathe through the awkwardness, to be radically inclusive, and ultimately, to surrender into the extraordinary generosity of love.

If you would like to live a more fulfilled and loving life, I invite you to contact me, Padma Gordon to learn more about my offerings in the world as a teacher, speaker and healer at padma@padmagordon.com. If you would like to receive my newsletter and read my latest writings visit my website.