Are You Going to Admit that It’s Your First Time?
We all go through our first times. Some of us may openly admit it, others may not have the courage to do so and may simply pretend they had done it many times before.
It was me that time in December when Lauren Frontiera from The Real Female Entrepreneur Podcast got in touch with me about being interviewed. I was terrified. I asked for questions ahead of time. Lauren sent me a few but also added that she likes the conversation to just flow. I was petrified! Did I admit it? Absolutely not. I pretended I was a seasoned interviewee, I chose to show up like that.
Lauren and I chatted and then recorded. To my surprise it went really well. I guess when you have been living and breathing creative entrepreneurship for 14 years you can talk about it with no rehearsal. But my insecure side may say that maybe it was just the beginner’s luck.
How do we react when we face something for the first time? Are we apologetically admitting that it’s our first time or do we fake it until we get good at it? What’s best?
Fake it until you make it — this cliche expression is so often quoted and lived by.
Why does it seem like it’s never anyone’s first time, that everyone is an expert? There may be a stigma behind being a rookie. No one has really patience and time for that.
We rehearse and train hiding our inexperience to show up as experts right away.
Where are the beginners, the rookies, those who need help and experience? Are we all experts who never need guidance? What’s so shameful in admitting that it’s our first time?
Maybe it’s our ego who wants us to show up as a winner. But maybe it’s the calling:
By not admitting that we’re just beginning, we stretch ourselves to grow into our too large wings. This is how entrepreneurial progress is made — by declaring how we want to be seen.
I’m not suggesting to be fake but expertise is relative. During our first time, we may already be experts.
Whether it’s thanks to our innate talent or the adrenaline stimulating us, during our beginnings we may be more proficient than the self-proclaimed experts.
If we admit that it’s our first time, we may get assistance and support, which will make us feel comfortable but are we really going to grow? We may start coasting, stay in our protective beginner’s cocoon and decide to never transform.
Agile creatives know that struggle is part of a game. And in fact we may be even infusing our life with it.
We could have it easy. It’s all given to us, served on a plate, ready. We accept this plate but decide to look around…writingcooperative.com
Let’s do it, do it without excuses that we are just beginning, that we don’t know. Being self-taught is part of creative hustle. We practice to meet the benchmark, which we often move up as we make progress. This is what entrepreneurial growth is all about. It’s not about being protected, catered to and saved from falling. That’s not what builds resilience.
We go through our first steps alone or with guidance, eager to leave the beginner stage. Those with excuses and who decide to coast as first timers without being pushed to make a progress may lack grit to survive the entrepreneurial hustle.
Anna Sabino is the author of a newly released book Your Creative Career published by Career Press.
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