Conquering Stress, Fear and Anxiety
With psychotherapist and best-selling author Jodi Aman.
When I was a child I was the victim of repeated and prolonged sexual abuse. My abuser was an adult who was supposed to take care of me and protect me from harm. Most of the abuse occurred in my own home. For many people home provides feelings of safety and security, but for people like me who were hurt behind the closed doors of their own home, nowhere ever feels truly safe.
I suffered years of acute anxiety mixed with depressions, the worst of which peaked during the years leading up to testifying in court against my abuser. I experienced another spike more recently when each of my own daughters reached and passed through the age at which my own abuse began. I have tried a lot of different treatments and techniques to deal with anxiety and depression over the years, running the gamut from meditation to medication.
So, when I find something that helps me with this side of my life, I am eager to let other people know about it. Recently I learned about Jodi Aman and read her book You 1, Anxiety 0.
I recently spoke with Jodi about the work she does and how it applies to my target audience, women working outside of the traditional 9 to 5. Here’s the thing about women who work outside of traditional employment. On the one hand we are incredibly lucky to be living in the times that we are living right now. At no other time in history have we had as many opportunities to do so much from the comfort of our own laptops. But a lot of us end up working from home because traditional employment wasn’t flexible enough to allow us to care for aging or disabled loved ones, or even just our kids when they are young. When women get forced out of traditional employment because they have to choose between their families and their careers, it can be a stressful and traumatic experience. Losing a spouse, caring for parents with alzheimer’s, or like me, caring for a child with complex medical needs and autism, all of these experiences are traumatic and stressful on their own, but then consequences for our careers and finances can push us from stressed into anxiety disorders.
But Jodi Aman is here to help. As a practicing psychotherapist Jodi has worked with hundreds of people both individually and in groups for many years. 10 years ago she decided to take her business to the online world in order to impact more people, while still maintaining her private practice. Sure, there are a lot of coaches and gurus online who help clients deal with stress, but how often do you have the same kind access to a world renown psychotherapist and best-selling author, as you would to a regular and unregulated coach?
Jodi explains that stress and anxiety both release the same hormones, adrenaline and norepinephrine. These hormones can be beneficial in that they create energy bursts and can help us push through both difficult and important things. However, when too much is present, overwhelm sets in, and the tendency is to stop and hide under the covers. Most of the time that is the worst thing you can do.
Here are just a few of Jodi’s tips to help you handle stress and anxiety:
- Put your energies into something constructive that is not related to the stressful activity. This will help use up the excess hormonal load.
- Learn a new skill to keep your brain active help raise your self-esteem.
- Take a walk, move your body. Exercise is a natural anti-depressant. Especially if you go out into nature and get a bit of Vitamin D through your skin
- Read something you enjoy.
- Listen to music or a podcast or watch a positive video.
- Every day, write down three things that you accomplished in a day and celebrate!
Jodi works with clients 1:1, in group coaching and has a variety of online anxiety recovery programs available on her website.