‘Expectation’ creates frustration.
Expectations make you fat, old, and tired; getting rid of expectations makes you happy, fulfilled, and loving. Choosing to believe someone owes you something, or should do something for you will lead to modest satisfaction when done, a hyper-critical eye, and regular disappointment when it’s not done.
The do-gooder will never live up to potential, and you’ll constantly find yourself frustrated, angry, resentful, or dismissive.
Yet, I allow myself to feel ‘frustration from expectation’ at times, and it never seems like the right call in hindsight.
Knowing that patience is an ongoing lesson for me right now, I simply follow these steps to I feel frustrated, let down, or disrespected:
- Identify I had an expectation that led to how I feel.
- Remind myself that I’m learning patience.
- Think of a way to get the result I want without having an expectation (likely, doing it myself)
- Accept that doing it myself or getting it done another way preserves health, relationships, and love.
- Choose the path that preserves health, relationships, and love.
Next time you find yourself frustrated with someone, consider whether or not you had an expectation and how it’s serving you. Try this exercise and see how you feel. I suspect you’ll find you’re enjoying yourself a lot more.
I’m so grateful for you,
Originally published at drkareem.com on February 20, 2017.