“Fear To A Great Extent Is Born Out Of A Story We Tell Ourselves” Words of Wisdom With Lindsey Myers

Yitzi Weiner
Apr 24, 2018 · 8 min read
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“There will be days when you want to quit. No one told me this! (And to be honest if they had, I’m not sure I would have believed them.) Some days it’s hard to keep going. Oh the guilt I felt on the days I wanted to quit. It was the worst. I felt like I was betraying my own dream just thinking about quitting. Until, I went to an event hosted by Female Founders Fund and the founder of Sakura Life, Whitney Tingle said this, “Now that I’m a successful business owner people ask me all the time if starting a business was hard. Fuck yeah it was hard! I wanna quit all the time. I wanted to quit yesterday. Being an entrepreneur gets glamorized, but you should see me with kale and almond flour in my hair.” I’ve never felt so relieved in my entire life. I imagine that’s how mothers feel when another Mom tells them it’s ok if you wanna strangle your kids sometimes.”

I had the pleasure of interviewing Lindsey Myers. Lindsey founded Concrete Blonde Consulting in November 2016 to pursue her passion for building reputations and revenues through business development marketing strategies. She provides profit and growth solutions was named “One to Watch” at the Women’s Media Summit in 2017. A communications expert and entrepreneur, she has over twelve years of experience serving various industries including consumer products and services, lifestyle, hospitality and nonprofit companies in NYC and the Hamptons luxury market. Myers is a leader in the Jewish community, having recently served two years on the steering committee for NYConnect at Temple Israel and currently actively involved with AIPAC young leadership, and is also a New York Cares volunteer, where she tutors students at Harlem’s Frederick Douglas Academy II as they prepare for the SATs.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! What is your “backstory”?

I’m originally from Akron, Ohio, but I moved to East Hampton, NY and finished high school there before going on to attend Boston University.

When I was around 3 years old, my grandfather took me to work with him one day and I’m told I refused to pay with my dolls on the floor. Apparently, I sat at his desk chair and shuffled papers around on the desk. When asked what I was doing, I told him I was being the boss. It wasn’t until about 25 years later, long after I had declared my major and started working at my first PR firm that I discovered my grandfather owned his own media company. So, I guess it’s genetic.

It wasn’t until 1991 though (I was 8) when I would learn the word “entrepreneur” … and that’s when I knew that was what I wanted to be.

I got involved in PR the summer between my sophomore and junior year of college when I took a summer internship at a PR firm in the Hamptons. And by my 4th day, I told the then CEO that someday I was going to own this company. I went back to school, declared my major and kept working at that same firm. And true to my word, I made equity partner by the time I was 28. But, I soon longed to have a firm all my own and I launched CBC in November 2016.

Can you share the funniest or most interesting story that happened to you since you began leading your company?

I don’t think I’ve gotten to the funny part yet…

What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?

Most PR firms are very cut and dry — there is a standard way of doing things they follow the template. I believe that businesses are better served when you create a campaign that is aligned with their values. And I’ve always tried to do the same with my business.

Are you working on any new or exciting projects now?

As I’m continuing the build the firm there are a few new projects you’ll see us launch in the near future. One core of value of our firm is to promote strong women (it’s not called Concrete Blonde by accident) and we intend to launch a few initiatives to back that up. Filigree, will be a monthly networking group for #FemaleFounders by invitation only. We also plan to launch a non-profit arm called “Like a Girl” that will enable us to create a foundation to support female athletes.

What advice would you give to other CEOs or founders to help their employees to thrive?

Always remember that risking is better than regretting. I’ve discovered that particularly with female founders we often have a tendency to play it a little too safe. You’ll never get your empire unless you swing for the fences.

Doubts kill more dreams than failure every will and sometimes you just gotta take a journey even if it’s a blind one. As long as your belief in what you are capable of accomplishing outweighs your fear of doing it — you’ll be fine.

Also, make sure you have a good support system. The true strength of the wolf isn’t fang, speed and skill — it’s the pack!

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None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are?

SO many people! No one does anything great alone.

Jessica Pinsky — she’s been my best friend since childhood and she’s always (and I mean always) believed that I would get my empire. During the tough days and demanding deadlines, she was also always there to remind that “you can survive anything for ‘x’ number of days”

Kara Silverman — when I started my business I was terrified that I would fail and end up homeless. She assured me that I was far too talented and too hard working for that to ever happen. She referred people to me. And she promised that if anything went wrong I could always sleep on her couch.

The Talent — I worked with some amazingly talented people in the beginning. Renee Albulario helped me design my website and business cards and really nail down the look I wanted for the branding. My first two employees were Whitney Meers and Kaitlin Vogel and their way with words and dedication is a blessing everyday.

How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

I volunteer in my community and give my time back. I’ve always believed that service to others is the rent we pay for our space here on earth and I plan to keep donating my time as long as the world will have me.

I also love connecting people. Not just in business, but in life. Anytime I can introduce two people that could benefit from knowing each other and expand their network — I’m all over it!

I’m also excited to start a non-profit and start giving back to a cause I believe in.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Became CEO” and why.

#1 — There will be days when you want to quit. No one told me this! (And to be honest if they had, I’m not sure I would have believed them.) Some days it’s hard to keep going. Oh the guilt I felt on the days I wanted to quit. It was the worst. I felt like I was betraying my own dream just thinking about quitting. Until, I went to an event hosted by Female Founders Fund and the founder of Sakura Life, Whitney Tingle said this, “Now that I’m a successful business owner people ask me all the time if starting a business was hard. Fuck yeah it was hard! I wanna quit all the time. I wanted to quit yesterday. Being an entrepreneur gets glamorized, but you should see me with kale and almond flour in my hair.” I’ve never felt so relieved in my entire life. I imagine that’s how mothers feel when another Mom tells them it’s ok if you wanna strangle your kids sometimes.

As for the other 4, I’ll have to get back to you … I was lucky in that I got a lot of good advice before I started.

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Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”?

There are far too many, but here are a few…

“Opportunities are missed by most, because she’s dressed in overalls and looks a lot like work.”

“The long way is easier … but it’s much longer.”

“Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.”

“Treading water is the same as drowning.”

“Don’t piss on my shoes and tell me it’s raining”

“I didn’t realize who I was until I stopped being who I wasn’t”

“Don’t let anyone — EVER — make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want.”

“Fear to a great extent is born out of a story we tell ourselves.”

“It’s supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard … is what makes it great.”

“You gotta catch the ball when you ask for it.”

“You can’t change the tide if the moon won’t cooperate. It’s basic physics.”

“In this lifetime, you don’t have to prove nothing to nobody but yourself.”

“Having dreams is what makes life tolerable.”

“Praying is something we do in our time, the answers come in G-d’s time.”

“If you’re going through hell, keep going”

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Some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this :-)

Shonda Rhimes, Oprah and Martha Stewart — all hardcore lady bosses who built serious empires. It would also be great if Aaron Sorkin could come, he’s my favorite writer. It’s a big table, right?

If you would like to see the entire “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me” Series In Huffpost, Authority Magazine, ThriveGlobal, and Buzzfeed, click HERE.

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